| Forever88 02.11.2005 20:28 |
to anyone here who had to do this, I need advice on how to come out to my parents. |
| John S Stuart 02.11.2005 21:15 |
*3* Forever88 wrote: to anyone here who had to do this, I need advice on how to come out to my parents.Look - I am not gay, but I am a parent. So this is how I would deal with my child. Sit down, and say it. End of story. Do not beat about the bush. Do not use euphamisms. Pick a quiet moment. Make sure the television is off. Take the telephone off the hook. Make sure you will not be disturbed. Sit with both parents. Do not tell one without the other. Be straight, (Excuse the pun) and be confident. Assure them that this is not a phase, or a mental illness. Be open, be honest and just be yourself. Your parents really do love you. Do not argue, nor raise you voice. All sounds good - I know, but just be true to yourself. It is that EASY. Now off you go and do it! |
| Sherwood Forest 02.11.2005 21:29 |
John S Stuart wrote:thats what i said but his parents are hard to tell this to, relaly if u knew the half of it-*3* Forever88 wrote: to anyone here who had to do this, I need advice on how to come out to my parents.Look - I am not gay, but I am a parent. So this is how I would deal with my child. Sit down, and say it. End of story. Do not beat about the bush. Do not use euphamisms. Pick a quiet moment. Make sure the television is off. Take the telephone off the hook. Make sure you will not be disturbed. Sit with both parents. Do not tell one without the other. Be straight, (Excuse the pun) and be confident. Assure them that this is not a phase, or a mental illness. Be open, be honest and just be yourself. Your parents really do love you. Do not argue, nor raise you voice. All sounds good - I know, but just be true to yourself. It is that EASY. Now off you go and do it! "Be straight, (Excuse the pun)" thast funny when i was trying to explain it i said "this is a sticky situation" hows that for a punn??? fits good and i didnt even try, oh Queen is pulsing through my veins (intended) |
| Mr.Jingles 02.11.2005 22:02 |
There's 3 ways to tell them. Pick which ever you find more appropiate? - You won't ever have to worry about me getting a girl pregnant. - As long as we have an extreme conservative president you won't have to spend thousands of dollars on my wedding. - I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO. |
| Yuri 02.11.2005 22:03 |
I have no suggestions as I havent and probably never will come out to my mother but best of luck to you. |
| SergeantPepperDG 02.11.2005 22:07 |
Mr.Jingles wrote: There's 3 ways to tell them. Pick which ever you find more appropiate? - You won't ever have to worry about me getting a girl pregnant. - As long as we have an extreme conservative president you won't have to spend thousands of dollars on my wedding. - I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO.I love that last one. |
| Zoroaster 02.11.2005 22:25 |
I need to know more about your specific situation. For example, socio-economic status, religion, and past experiences all play into the reaction you will receive. Also, do your parents know a lot of other gay people? What are their reactions to other gay people? Give a little more info and I'll tell you the best way to go about it. |
| Music Man 02.11.2005 23:10 |
Use the Nike method: Just do it. |
| Erin 02.11.2005 23:57 |
Mr.Jingles wrote: - I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO.LMAO |
| Jjeroen 03.11.2005 04:19 |
To most, this is indeed the hardest thing to do EVER. To realy help you you do need to give some more info about your parents and your background. But in general parents' reactions are not half as bad as one thinks on forehand. And yes, I do realise that we are a bit different and privileged in the Netherlands. But what John S says, is true: your parents DO love you - unconditionally. But you have to tell them SOMEtime; keeping this all to yourself is eventually just as bad for your well-feeling. But don't tell untill you truly feel that you are up to it. In general I'd suggest to start with your mom only - talk to her and then take her out for a cup of coffee (REALY!! - take her out after you told her!) Good luck! |
| Flashman 03.11.2005 05:23 |
Just say: "Look folks, I prefer the funnel, not the tunnel." You'll soon be mincing around, affecting a high pitch squeal and getting hysterical over minor things with the best of them. |
| Sherwood Forest 03.11.2005 06:35 |
Mr.Jingles wrote: There's 3 ways to tell them. Pick which ever you find more appropiate? - You won't ever have to worry about me getting a girl pregnant. - As long as we have an extreme conservative president you won't have to spend thousands of dollars on my wedding. - I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO.i vote for the last one russel |
| Ms. Bea Haven 03.11.2005 09:04 |
If you are who I think you are (I'm old - I can't remember crap half the time) - but didn't we meet at the concert in NJ...& I had a comment about your shoes... If you are this person - bud - your mom's VERY PROUD of you - she likes the fact that you aren't afraid to express yourself. I really don't think you're gonna have to worry about anything. Always just be yourself - don't feel that you have to be or act a certain way just to appease others. And don't feel that you have to live up to other peoples' expectations, either. Don't act a certain way or don't hold yourself back from doing something because it may seem out of the ordinary. Don't be afraid to look outside of the box or push the envelope. Life doesn't come with a book of instructions - you write it as you go along. Make the best of yours. Hmmm, who said, "ya just gotta strong and believe in yourself..." sound familiar? :o) XoXo- Miss Bea FHg@queenzone.com |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 09:40 |
Miss Bea Haven<br><h6>I'm Not Roger</h6 wrote: If you are who I think you are (I'm old - I can't remember crap half the time) - but didn't we meet at the concert in NJ...& I had a comment about your shoes... If you are this person - bud - your mom's VERY PROUD of you - she likes the fact that you aren't afraid to express yourself. I really don't think you're gonna have to worry about anything. Always just be yourself - don't feel that you have to be or act a certain way just to appease others. And don't feel that you have to live up to other peoples' expectations, either. Don't act a certain way or don't hold yourself back from doing something because it may seem out of the ordinary. Don't be afraid to look outside of the box or push the envelope. Life doesn't come with a book of instructions - you write it as you go along. Make the best of yours. Hmmm, who said, "ya just gotta strong and believe in yourself..." sound familiar? :o) XoXo- Miss Bea FHg@queenzone.comThat was me |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 10:19 |
I think i'll leave it to them in my will, or tell them at their funerals, which ever one of us dies first. |
| Ms. Bea Haven 03.11.2005 10:21 |
If you feel so inclined - FHg@queenzone.com XoXo- Ms B |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 11:09 |
Everyone, I'm gonna tell em. Just blatantly flat out say "Well guys, i like to pack the fudge." |
| Jjeroen 03.11.2005 11:23 |
Good on ya!! I wish you luck. |
| deleted user 03.11.2005 11:53 |
how old are you? |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 12:03 |
13 dear. |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 13:42 |
k, chickening out now. My dad is away, and my mom is pushing it out of me! |
| doremi 03.11.2005 14:18 |
SergeantPepperDG wrote:LMAO!Mr.Jingles wrote: There's 3 ways to tell them. Pick which ever you find more appropiate? - You won't ever have to worry about me getting a girl pregnant. - As long as we have an extreme conservative president you won't have to spend thousands of dollars on my wedding. - I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO.I love that last one. |
| deleted user 03.11.2005 14:19 |
13? And already sure bout your sexuality? Dear the first time I fell in love I was 14. And I started really looking at girls at 15. Your early :-P! |
| deleted user 03.11.2005 14:24 |
*3* Forever88 wrote: k, chickening out now. My dad is away, and my mom is pushing it out of me!Good idea to tell your mom first. |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 14:25 |
I've known a little over a year. me and my hedonistic ways! I realised in 6th grade when I kept grabbing my friends asses. |
| deleted user 03.11.2005 14:33 |
You kept grabbing your friends arses? Allright, never do that :-P. A friend of mine also always kept grabbing my (and others) arses. |
| Mr.Jingles 03.11.2005 14:46 |
*3* Forever88 wrote: I've known a little over a year. me and my hedonistic ways! I realised in 6th grade when I kept grabbing my friends asses.That's the good thing about being gay. You can slap the ass of a person you find attractive as long as they're your friends. For us straight guys, if you slap the ass of a female friend you're most likely to receive a slap in the face or in the worst cases a lawsuit for sexual harassment. |
| KillerQueen840 03.11.2005 15:00 |
I'm sure you're parents will be understanding. Even though I am not gay, my dad always reminds us (my bro and I) that he would still love us no matter what, even if we were gay. Not that he thinks we're gay, he just mentions it often when we see movies and stuff. So, don't worry. :-) |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 15:03 |
Well dears, thank you all! I'll give you all the results. |
| Rockyuk 03.11.2005 15:33 |
Come home drunk (but pretend to be mor edrunk than you actually are), tell them. If they take it badly, when you have sobered up the next morning pretend you forgot about telling them, act suprised when they mention it, blame it on the drink and assure them you are not gay. |
| Rockyuk 03.11.2005 15:35 |
*3* Forever88 wrote: Well dearsThey probably already know though... |
| deleted user 03.11.2005 15:35 |
and then they'll come up with the fact that a drunken guy always tells the trueth :P |
| Rockyuk 03.11.2005 15:42 |
Nah, make up some bullshit that your friend came out as gay earlier that night, so you've been teasing him all nigt about it, by all pretending to be gay aswell. Say you just carried on cos you were drunk or something. |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 15:53 |
Rockyuk wrote:Most likely.*3* Forever88 wrote: Well dearsThey probably already know though... |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 16:03 |
<font color=silver>Dennis Daja<h6>A Lord wrote: You kept grabbing your friends arses? Allright, never do that :-P. A friend of mine also always kept grabbing my (and others) arses.And that's cos your a hot piece of ass |
| deleted user 03.11.2005 16:13 |
*3* Forever88<h6>The QZ Fag</h6> wrote:well I got a hot ass :P<font color=silver>Dennis Daja<h6>A Lord wrote: You kept grabbing your friends arses? Allright, never do that :-P. A friend of mine also always kept grabbing my (and others) arses.And that's cos your a hot piece of ass |
| Jjeroen 03.11.2005 16:18 |
LMAO! ;-))) |
| deleted user 03.11.2005 16:24 |
jeroen wrote: LMAO! ;-)))I shouldn't do that so hot chicks can't see it anymore. :-P |
| *3*Playful as a pussycat 03.11.2005 16:43 |
oh, im so proud that youre brave enough to even think of telling your parents! one of my best friend's is gay and he has a really tough time with his parents. im not sure if he actually told them, though, rather that they just found out somehow. but anyway, i wish you the best of luck with it and please do tell us the results! even if you have to struggle towards your computer, meaning if they take away your computer privileges because they would act exactly like my parents would if i was a lesbian and they found out. sadistic and wrong, but hey, it could happen. but good luck, hon. Fred's spirit will be with you! |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 17:08 |
Well my dears, I am out and proud. All is well, thanx for your support! My mom is being quite accepting, and we are on good terms. I'm finally happy! YaY! |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 17:15 |
flat out "I'm Gay!" |
| *3*Playful as a pussycat 03.11.2005 18:52 |
that's the way to do it! *hugs* good job! |
| Forever88 03.11.2005 19:01 |
thanks dahling! |
| JustHisWife 03.11.2005 19:46 |
Good for you! My cousin waited like 29 years to come out, finally did when my mum was dying and his parents were both dead. I don't think he'll ever be happy about having waited that long. Mr Jingles, Bill told me what you posted last night and I almost choke on a milky way I was eating... |
| deleted user 04.11.2005 05:17 |
great dude. I know how hard it is. I mean, I had to tell my father that i wanted to go to the Queen tour. And for my father that is equal to being gay :-S |
| Ms. Bea Haven 04.11.2005 09:00 |
Good for you kiddo. I'm sure you feel a lot better now, and, again, after talking to your mom that day, I kinda knew that she wouldn't have a problem with it. She's a very down to earth woman, and you are a very fine young man. Follow your dreams! XoXo- Ms. B |
| Forever88 04.11.2005 15:11 |
Miss Bea Haven<br><h6>I'm Not Roger</h6 wrote: Good for you kiddo. I'm sure you feel a lot better now, and, again, after talking to your mom that day, I kinda knew that she wouldn't have a problem with it. She's a very down to earth woman, and you are a very fine young man. Follow your dreams! XoXo- Ms. BThanks |
| Winter Land Man 04.11.2005 17:32 |
Not being straight myself, I don't think you'll get too far in the gay community. LMAO. Freddie copycat :-P Dear, dears, dahling, gay, I'm going slightly mad. Do you think you are Freddie? |
| Forever88 04.11.2005 17:35 |
Oh Really? Now listen to me lovies, I don't care for fucks sake! j/k |
| Forever88 04.11.2005 17:36 |
Messenger Of Leah wrote: Not being straight myself, I don't think you'll get too far in the gay community. LMAO. Freddie copycat :-POh now i understand, you were at the tailgat ;-P |
| *3*Playful as a pussycat 05.11.2005 11:39 |
Messenger Of Leah wrote: Not being straight myself, I don't think you'll get too far in the gay community. LMAO. Freddie copycat :-P Dear, dears, dahling, gay, I'm going slightly mad. Do you think you are Freddie?what r u getting at now? |
| deleted user 05.11.2005 15:02 |
I am very attrective. My problem is that I'm mostly attractive to homo/bi's :-(. When does there come a woman? |
| Winter Land Man 05.11.2005 15:40 |
<font color=black>Dennis Daja<h6>QZs God wrote: I am very attrective. My problem is that I'm mostly attractive to homo/bi's (neh). When does there come a woman?I've noticed guys arn't as judgemental as women. |
| Forever88 07.11.2005 15:30 |
Messenger Of Leah wrote: Dear, dears, dahling, gay, I'm going slightly mad. Do you think you are Freddie?Fuck you dahling, if you just don't get it! |