| Stelios 28.07.2016 13:08 |
From what we know Freddie's relation with his mother and sister is well documented. However the relation with his father Bomi is always missing. I do seem to remember that its been stated they were not very close. But why? Did Freddie's choices and flamboyant persona alienated Bomi ? Was there any conflict between father and son? If you ask me there is a storng possibility Freddie's idiosincracity wouldn't sit that well with the traditional, old fashioned profile his father seemed to have. I wouldn't be surprised even if Bomi would be somehow homophobic even. Ok i know Freddie presented Mary as his "common-law wife" or something to his family...but come on..the man seemed to push gender stereotypes and project this hyper-sexual non heteronormative appeal to the limits. In those few photos we have of him he somehow seems always aloof or out of place so again i cant sense any attachment between father and son. So is there anything thats been documented or speculated on this topic? |
| luthorn 28.07.2016 14:17 |
Freddie was shipped out to a boarding school at a young age. That was a tradition among those working for the British civil service, who could afford it. I would say it is more cultural than personal. |
| Stelios 28.07.2016 14:27 |
luthorn wrote: Freddie was shipped out to a boarding school at a young age. That was a tradition among those working for the British civil service, who could afford it. I would say it is more cultural than personal.Yes i know. But that would mean that his relation with both his parents would be distant. Somehow this dosent seem to be the case with his mom. At leats this is the impression i have. |
| luthorn 28.07.2016 15:02 |
Stelios wrote:I dared to speculate. My father in law was born around the time of Freddie in that part of the world. Father of Indian origin was also in British civil service. Boarding school followed, also in India. The father-son relationship very distant for no reason other than parents want to be left alone and treat their children like 'we procreated, you got good education, our deed is done, now fuck off'.luthorn wrote: Freddie was shipped out to a boarding school at a young age. That was a tradition among those working for the British civil service, who could afford it. I would say it is more cultural than personal.Yes i know. But that would mean that his relation with both his parents would be distant. Somehow this dosent seem to be the case with his mom. At leats this is the impression i have. |
| Stelios 28.07.2016 15:39 |
luthorn wrote:I get your point.Stelios wrote:I dared to speculate. My father in law was born around the time of Freddie in that part of the world. Father of Indian origin was also in British civil service. Boarding school followed, also in India. The father-son relationship very distant for no reason other than parents want to be left alone and treat their children like 'we procreated, you got good education, our deed is done, now fuck off'.luthorn wrote: Freddie was shipped out to a boarding school at a young age. That was a tradition among those working for the British civil service, who could afford it. I would say it is more cultural than personal.Yes i know. But that would mean that his relation with both his parents would be distant. Somehow this dosent seem to be the case with his mom. At leats this is the impression i have. I am Greek and family relationships here are all tears, sweat and blood. Parents never actually leave their kids too far from the nest...well at least previous generations didn't. Its all about blood ties, control, supposedly unconditional love and the "make me proud" saga. Quite a heavy baggage that noone entirely escapes so thats why Freddies relation with his dad seems so odd to me. |
| on my way up 29.07.2016 07:33 |
It's not just his relationship with his father but the relationship with both his parents. It's not a matter of love because Freddie clearly loved his parents and the same goes in the other direction. I think that everything Bomi and Jer did was because they thought it was the right thing to do. Unfortunately - and this is something I believe strongly but I do in no way blame them!! - they made some wrong choices for their son/ in their relationship with their son. This has more to do with the times they were living in than with those people personally (and of course religion is a big factor). I always feel that Freddie struggled with on the one hand his loyalty towards his parents and on the other hand the man he was and wanted to be. Since he thought (and this might very well have been the case) that his parents would not accept him being gay and leading the life he led he chose to be 2 different guys, one for his friends and partners and then the other one for his close family (very few people - like Mary - saw both sides). In the end all this doesn't matter because... Whenever I look at the picture of Bomi in Montreux at Freddie's statue or whenever I watch footage of Jer talking about her son I see 1 thing: the deepest love of all, the love from a parent for his/her child. And the never-ending pain of a parent who had to say goodbye to its child (= the worst pain there is, a wound that can never heal). |
| Vocal harmony 29.07.2016 07:49 |
Stelios wrote: From what we know Freddie's relation with his mother and sister is well documented. However the relation with his father Bomi is always missing. I do seem to remember that its been stated they were not very close. But why? Did Freddie's choices and flamboyant persona alienated Bomi ? Was there any conflict between father and son? If you ask me there is a storng possibility Freddie's idiosincracity wouldn't sit that well with the traditional, old fashioned profile his father seemed to have. I wouldn't be surprised even if Bomi would be somehow homophobic even. Ok i know Freddie presented Mary as his "common-law wife" or something to his family...but come on..the man seemed to push gender stereotypes and project this hyper-sexual non heteronormative appeal to the limits. In those few photos we have of him he somehow seems always aloof or out of place so again i cant sense any attachment between father and son. So is there anything thats been documented or speculated on this topic?There seems to be the usual speculation on this subject as a result of no one really knowing. Both his parents attended the Saturday show at Wembley on the magic tour. For a parent who had a distant relationship or even a dislike of what Freddie did, or stood for this is a pretty major thing. There are other reports that they attended other gigs too. This proves nothing one way or another and it could be argued that it's once or twice in a long history. But it could also be argued that it's the action of two proud and interested parents |
| master marathon runner 29.07.2016 11:47 |
............and after deciding not to attend live aid due to how busy it would be, according to Jer, watched it on tv and after their performance, Bomi turned to Jer and said: ' well our boy has done it, he's just rocked the world'. This is vaguely how Jer told it in something I watched, listened to, or read, can't for the hell of it remember which though. |
| Stelios 30.07.2016 08:54 |
master marathon runner wrote: ............and after deciding not to attend live aid due to how busy it would be, according to Jer, watched it on tv and after their performance, Bomi turned to Jer and said: ' well our boy has done it, he's just rocked the world'. This is vaguely how Jer told it in something I watched, listened to, or read, can't for the hell of it remember which though.There is an interview/ documentary that i remember those words been said by Jer. Something like 'look what our boy had done" while watching Live Aid. Of course that dosent mean that both had said something similar. |
| Stelios 30.07.2016 08:55 |
Stelios wrote:master marathon runner wrote: ............and after deciding not to attend live aid due to how busy it would be, according to Jer, watched it on tv and after their performance, Bomi turned to Jer and said: ' well our boy has done it, he's just rocked the world'. This is vaguely how Jer told it in something I watched, listened to, or read, can't for the hell of it remember which though.There is an interview/ documentary that i remember those words been said by Jer. Something like 'look what our boy had done" while watching Live Aid. Of course that dosent mean that both of them didn't say something similar. |
| Stelios 30.07.2016 08:57 |
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