QueenZone discussion #827471

YourValentine wrote: The natural reaction to an alcoholic is trying to help and some families spend years and years trying to help and cover up. The truth is that you cannot help. Your father has to get help by his own choice and the more the family helps and covers up, the longer it will take for him to admit to having a problem. Denial is more common for an alcoholic than any other drug addict. It sounds cruel but you have to abandon him and let him solve it by himself. There is counselling for families of alcoholics and they will tell you just the same. You must understand that there is nothing for you to be ashamed of. Alcoholism is a disease and nothing shameful. As long as you cannot move out and have to put up with the situation, try to distance yourself from it and don't let it ruin your life. I know it's easier said than done but it's the only way.

Mircrowave! wrote: Oh shut up and go get your Dad another beer!

Mircrowave! wrote: Oh shut up and go get your Dad another beer!

Mircrowave! wrote: Oh shut up and go get your Dad another beer!

Queen_Rox<h6>We Will Rock You</h6> wrote: Now how can we think of food at a time like this? Quonkers is having a problem and we all should help her.

Mircrowave! wrote: If you thought I was really serious, then I am an A*hole. I thought a good wise crack was needed there. Didn't mean to poo-poo on your day. I will Microwave myself. Besides, isn't a counselor or someone more qualified to handle this kind of question? The wrong advice may end up making the whole situation worse. Especially advice from a 13, 15, or 16 year old.

Mircrowave! wrote: If you thought I was really serious, then I am an A*hole. I thought a good wise crack was needed there. Didn't mean to poo-poo on your day. I will Microwave myself. Besides, isn't a counselor or someone more qualified to handle this kind of question? The wrong advice may end up making the whole situation worse. Especially advice from a 13, 15, or 16 year old.

<font color=red>Quonkers wrote: I need to get this off my chest because I really haven't a clue what to do and I need some advice. I've known for the past three years that my dad has a drink problem. Apparently it's been like this since I was a baby but I first became aware of it when I was eleven. At first I thought the best thing to do would be to stay out of it, but in the past year in particular it's become very bad. He's promised more times than I can count to get help, and he even tried going to a meeting before, but in the past year he seems to have decided he hasn't got a problem and has even started blaming the rest of us for it. I never told anyone in school about it. I haven't been able to concentrate on my school work in the past few months and my grades have slipped a bit. I've been kept awake at night listening to rows between my parents. I went to see the school guidance counsellor every week, sometimes even twice a week, and I thought things were going to change when she talked to my mum. My dad was made aware of everything, said he hadn't realised how bad he had made me feel and promised again to get help. But now it's worse than before. Every time I look at him he seems to be so drunk that he can barely stand. He refuses to even talk about it now. Sorry for rambling a bit, but I just needed to let that out. I don't know what I'm supposed to do.

YourValentine wrote: I am not a teenager and my advice is based on experience. The problem on this board is that people feel the need to post even if they have nothing to say. There are endless threads on the board where everyone can post their "OMG I have no idea" posts - it would have been polite to leave this thread alone and not make the topic starter feel bad about posting her worries.