I just found out my Dads brother which is my uncle has died today of Cancer, I don't know which kind but my mum got the phone call from my other uncle who was visting him today. My dad is in tears and I am trying so hard not to myself. I don't want to show him that I'm upset. I'm finding it hard to catch my breath though....It has come as such a shock to me and now I don't feel well. He was such a nice guy.... R.I.P :(
Sorry I just had to tell someone, anyone...
That's absolutely terrible... I'm deeply sorry for your loss. :'(
*hugs*
Death is so difficult to deal with. You, your dad, and your whole family are very brave.
I'm so sorry. <hugs> But please know it's not only okay to cry, it may be good for your dad to see you doing it - to know you cared that much for his brother. Besides, it's better to get it out than try to hold it all in.
Aw, Jess, I'm so sorry... :'( My Mom died from cancer when I was little, so I know what it's like. Also, my Dad passed away just recently, so what you're feeling now is what I'm still sorta feeling. You don't have to be strong and try not to cry. It really helps to let it out. Even if you don't want to cry in front of other people, go somewhere else and just let it all out. I can tell you from personal experience that by keeping it all inside is not a good thing. What I also found out that works (for me, anyway) is writing a letter to someone that you trust and look up to. For me, that is, of course, Brian :P . I just sit down and tell him everything and that way it's like talking about it but not really. Anyway, I don't know if that was any help or not. I know what you're going through... hang in there okay? And listen to lots of Queen! Keep the boys on 24/7!
I am truly sooo sorry for your loss...
This is an all to familiar scene for me...(ive lost many people in my life to cancer, heart disease, ALS and even one voluntary death)
And its not easy...
And it wont ever get easier...
*sooooo many hugs*
and my heart truly goes out to you, ill keep you and your family in my thoughts... and this can only make you a stonger person...
Please dont keep it inside, even if you must cry yourself to sleep, because when my grandmother passed away recently i refused to cry in front of my mother because i wanted to be strong for her and i didnt want to break down...
But i had a few other things going on as well and it almost drove me insane trying to be so strong.
And its always helpful to find someone to talk to, and maybe write or just listen to some music to help show you some happy things...
But dont be afraid to cry...
Im soo sorry for your loss dear. If you need to talk, email me...
I'm sorry, Jess and Marissa. Your family members must be watching over you along with the rest of the angels (including Freddie, of course). I hope I'm not making your day worse by saying that.
I'm so sorry to hear abouth this, both of you. death is always so difficult, even though it's one of the most natural things that happen. I know it doesn't help saying that :( I hope you'll feel better soon.
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Oh Jess, what can I say? My deepest sympathies to you and to your family. When my uncle died a few years ago it came as a shock to us. We had no idea that it was going to happen. So I can understand what it feels like to lose someone unexpectedly.
We're all here for you.
His Cancer was 'down below'....
Thank you everybody so much for your kind words. I have got on with life, went to school but the hardest moment was when I told my friends and I couldn't keep it in anymore so I cried with them. My dad has went to work, I think it's okay to just carry on with the normal day to day things in life. I am trying to cope with it all and listening to Queen has helped abit to calm me down.
I know this sounds mad but I had "A Winters Tale" on for 40 times on repeat, I adore that song so much and it really calmed me down. Thanks everyone again. *big hugs*
<font color="#FF00FF">its_a_hard_life wrote: His Cancer was 'down below'....
Thank you everybody so much for your kind words. I have got on with life, went to school but the hardest moment was when I told my friends and I couldn't keep it in anymore so I cried with them. My dad has went to work, I think it's okay to just carry on with the normal day to day things in life. I am trying to cope with it all and listening to Queen has helped abit to calm me down.
I know this sounds mad but I had "A Winters Tale" on for 40 times on repeat, I adore that song so much and it really calmed me down. Thanks everyone again. *big hugs*
Thats the best thing you can do, things will still be strange when getting back to normal life, but your uncle would want you too. And Im glad you've got your support system there of friends, i didnt have that so thats sooo wonderful... :D And just think of him as often as you can and hes watching over all of you always, in paradise...
And No its not mad, when you find something that comforting, its good to use it as often as you want... I did that with a few songs too when i go through times like this... and when im down...
*hugs*