| geeksandgeeks 23.01.2005 11:04 |
I'm just about sick to death of being asked the same incredibly stupid question once a week, and I haven't been able to think of a reponse that will just make people go away. Unlike the majority of industrial-nation women, I do not regularly wear a bra. My reasons are very simple: this particular article of clothing makes me feel very uncomfortable and according to the Ann Landers pencil tests I don't need one anyway. I don't do it to draw attention - rather, I usually dress fairly modestly and in several layers. This does not stop me from being regularly accosted by imbeciles (usually female, men don't seem to care) demanding to know why I don't wear a bra. What I feel is a sensible response is inevitably followed up with "But you HAVE to!" or offers to take me to Victoria's Secret after school. Repsonses of "It's really none of your business" generally result in the same people coming back up to me the next day. Help me out here. It's grinding on my last nerve. |
| Lester Burnham 23.01.2005 11:07 |
"Why are you staring at my chest anyway?" |
| deleted user 23.01.2005 11:13 |
Why should they care? It's not their buisness! |
| deleted user 23.01.2005 11:24 |
I think the simple fact that it makes you uncomfortable is a good enough response to their questions. I'd stick to "It's none of your business," personally. |
| Brimon 23.01.2005 14:15 |
You could tell them you do'nt have to wear a bra because, your breasts are'nt swinging around your ankles. |
| brENsKi 23.01.2005 14:19 |
i think it's bloody amazing that a woman of 79 (see your profile) doesn't need a bra tell em that if they stop fixating on your lack of bra - you'll ignore their VPL (visible panty line) |
| deleted user 23.01.2005 14:38 |
Tits aren't such a big issue for me, but if you got 'em, flaunt 'em. |
| Sonia Doris 23.01.2005 14:58 |
why are bras such a problem now? i sometimes wear one, and other times dont. what's the big fuss about not wearing a bra??? was the women's liberation movement in vain? (sorry... im a bit angry) |
| Music Man 23.01.2005 15:13 |
Just say you don't wear a bra because you get more attention when it rains. |
| Megamike The GREAT 23.01.2005 16:29 |
OH GREAT... Thanks.. Now I wish I was back in School.... YOUR school.... I wore a bra once.. long story.. it was worth it though |
| Janet 23.01.2005 16:43 |
We have time Mike. Go ahead and tell it. ;-) |
| geeksandgeeks 23.01.2005 16:56 |
Music Man wrote: Just say you don't wear a bra because you get more attention when it rains.Jesus Christ! One of the main benefits is that it tends to keep guys AWAY from my chest! Personally, I kind of like Lester's response. Thanks, man. |
| Mr.Jingles 23.01.2005 17:08 |
Mandy Stick to your guns (no pun intended) and follow those women of the female liberation movements from the 60s. Take all your bras, and burn them. Hahaha, I'm kidding... you should definitely stand by your ideas, but is not necessary to make demonstrations about it. Besides, who is actually criticizing you for not wearing a bra anyways? If you know for sure that you don't need one and it's what makes you feel comfortable, then why should you wear one anyways. Next time someone makes a comment about it, all you need to say... "It's my chest, not yours and I think you've been staring at it for too long". I mean some women actually need some support in order to avoid looking like they have boobs of an 80 year old woman, but it is still their bodies and since they're not actually exposing themselves then it doesn't matter what they choose to wear or not. Especially when you have a Gwen Stefani or Cameron Diaz type of rack that doesn't need any support whatsoever. OK, I might not be a girl and it might seem weird that I'm voicing my opinion, but you should truly stand by what you believe in (especially since it's something personal that is not affecting anyone). |
| Mean Mistreater 23.01.2005 17:36 |
yes, it is none of their business, and I don't blame you for not wearing one because I don't either half the time. I say let's burn all underwear all together! Then nobody could ask about boxers, briefs, there would be no thongs sticking out, no granny panties, no bra strap falling off your shoulder or digging into your shoulder...just don't wear any! They're all uncomfortable to me! |
| brENsKi 23.01.2005 17:47 |
<font color=#8A2BE2> Linda Of The Valley wrote: The only problem I have is that some people are complete sluts about it when they don't wear bras. I have this teacher who doesn't wear a bra and she always leans down and...ugh...she dresses like such a slut too...ugh!can you introduce me to her....she sounds like a "good time" |
| Lester Burnham 23.01.2005 18:16 |
Mean Mistreater wrote: yes, it is none of their business, and I don't blame you for not wearing one because I don't either half the time. I say let's burn all underwear all together! Then nobody could ask about boxers, briefs, there would be no thongs sticking out, no granny panties, no bra strap falling off your shoulder or digging into your shoulder...just don't wear any! They're all uncomfortable to me!Does your name come from The Rolling Stones' song 'Had It With You'? |
| bellydancer 23.01.2005 18:17 |
I'm envious geeksandgeeks. I wish I could do what you do but unfortunately being rather well endowed myself (I'm not bragging believe me! - I'd give 'em away if I could!!!) unfortunately its a complete necessity. When asked the question, why not smile, say thank you but I'm quite happy the way I am and try and change the conversation. If they persist say to them "I'm sure that there are things that you don't wish advice upon so please respect my decisions." If they are true friends then they will understand and leave it alone. If not, then their opinion is not worth a damn anyway so just ignore it!!! |
| Monte: Liquorice Years 24.01.2005 03:49 |
just tell them to go fuck themselves, geeks. (thats my answer for everything!!) if you dont feel comfortable in them, so be it! im quite the opposite...i need to where one, otherwise i feel exposed!! mind you, i wear jeans in the middle of summer im that self conscience, so yeah. but geeks, id just like to say. Try them. Buy one withour a wire to start....then when you get used to it, you can get one with a wire. But the choice is yours. im not forcing you to do anything!!! |
| Mean Mistreater 24.01.2005 08:11 |
Lester - my name is the title of a Grand Funk Railroad song. Is there something similar from the Stones? |
| geeksandgeeks 24.01.2005 16:36 |
Monte: Liqourice Years wrote: just tell them to go fuck themselves, geeks. (thats my answer for everything!!) if you dont feel comfortable in them, so be it! im quite the opposite...i need to where one, otherwise i feel exposed!! mind you, i wear jeans in the middle of summer im that self conscience, so yeah. but geeks, id just like to say. Try them. Buy one withour a wire to start....then when you get used to it, you can get one with a wire. But the choice is yours. im not forcing you to do anything!!!Tried it already. The only time I wear one is when I'm onstage, because there are few things more embarassing than having a spotlight shine THROUGH one layer of clothing, so I wear a sports bra. *CHOKE* not very comfortable. And I'm a 40A last I checked, so it really isn't worth the money. |
| Awesome-O _4000 24.01.2005 21:46 |
Haha, this is funny. I'm like bellydancer, I can't stand NOT wearing one... except for when I run naked through my house, haha! But seriously, even those who aren't "well endowed", don't you hate feeling like you're bouncing around?? That bothers me soooo much. When I was at my summer job where you do lots of climbing up and down mountains, someone made fun of me for my bouncy boobs... they're not even that big really... |
| Lester Burnham 24.01.2005 21:54 |
Mean Mistreater wrote: Lester - my name is the title of a Grand Funk Railroad song. Is there something similar from the Stones?The line is "You're a mean mistreater / you're a dirty dirty rat scum" from their 1986 song 'Had It With You'. If I remember correctly, Keith Richards wrote it about Mick Jagger, so it's not a very flattering song. Not to interrupt this discussion. Let me contribute something...uh... Boobs. |
| Queenleaf 27.01.2005 11:35 |
I don't know what to tell them but I hate bras too and I feel your pain. I have to wear them though because I am what people call "breastually gifted." |
| Kingofrhye 29.01.2005 11:43 |
Just tell them that you wouldn't be ABLE to put on a bra, on account of them already getting on your t*ts. [/lame] |
| Simoriah 29.01.2005 21:06 |
Haven't got a good reply for you, but just wanted to say I hate wearing them too, as they're so uncomfortable. Hated having to wear one at night when in the nursing stages with the baby, so uncomfortable. Why does no one warn you that just after baby is born, they go HUGE? I know the reasons why, but it was still a surprise (uncomfortable too). Sorry, gone slightly off topic. Tell 'em that as long as your boobs are covered up, it's really none of their damn business. |
| MetzgerR 30.01.2005 00:52 |
Geeks, I don't know why people are bothering you about this...To be honest, I generally avoid wearing bras (as a 30A, I certainly am not well enough endowed to absolutely require one, I'd say), and instead wear a camisole underneath my shirts. Like you said, the lack of underwire or extra padding does tend to minimize my already inconspicuous chest, and I've never had anyone comment. I mean, during exercise or something it's completely another matter...but just in class our out with friends...I don't think it's worth the discomfort to subject myself to an underwire contraption! That was all probably way more information than you wanted, and I doubt it truly helped you in any way...but honestly, I know more girls who don't wear bras on a regular basis than do... Maybe it's just FSU, or something, but I've certainly never heard anyone take offense at it or anything. Ja ne! Judy |
| dragonzflame 30.01.2005 04:22 |
As a "breastually gifted" (love that term!) member of the fairer sex, I urge you to cherish your bra-free years. They're expensive, hot, the wires fall out and poke you and they show through light coloured tops. I'm with Lester on this one. I can't believe people would be so rude as to comment on your breasts. |
| Queenleaf 30.01.2005 10:26 |
I once was taking a bra off in a hurry and the damn underwires were poking out and I got these huge scratches on my ribs! Not cool! |
| Goo 30.01.2005 21:26 |
Tell them you find it uncomfortable, but say it in a way that makes them feel stupid. I have a friend who rarely wears a bra, and when anyone inquires about it, she makes it very obvious that CLEARLY going bra-less is the better way to go. No one bothers her about it, and most people actually come to agree with her. |
| Monte: Liquorice Years 31.01.2005 01:36 |
just tell everyone you're a hippy!! and you dont believe in such things! your body is at one with nature! (i say that anyway!! and i wear the stupid things!) and whats a 40A in australian sizes? cause fuck, im a 12C or something....and i dont think they're on par with each other...just curious. |
| geeksandgeeks 31.01.2005 16:33 |
Monte: Liqourice Years wrote: just tell everyone you're a hippy!! and you dont believe in such things! your body is at one with nature! (i say that anyway!! and i wear the stupid things!) and whats a 40A in australian sizes? cause fuck, im a 12C or something....and i dont think they're on par with each other...just curious.A is the smallest size, and 40 refers to underbreast circumference in inches. I have a massive ribcage, so it can get a bit awkward sometimes :$ |
| Queenleaf 31.01.2005 17:23 |
How easy is it to find a 32C? Not to get too personal. But maybe I should take a leaf out of Mandy's book. On the other hand, maybe not. |
| LiveAidQueen 31.01.2005 17:38 |
During the summer, I never wear a bra! |
| Mr.Jingles 31.01.2005 19:07 |
LiveAidQueen wrote: During the summer, I never wear a bra!I think I need one. I've gotten quite chunky over the past years, and I think a manssiere could be quite useful. Remember than Seinfeld episode? |
| Simoriah 31.01.2005 19:31 |
You got man breasts Jingles? Not a fan of underwired bras as the wire escaped from one of mine and made a hole in my washing machine drum. Cheap underwear, expensive damage. |
| Mr.Jingles 31.01.2005 20:55 |
Simoriah wrote: You got man breasts Jingles?Lol, a bit of it... hehe. I always say that I have bigger boobs than Gwen Stefani or Gwyneth Paltrol. |
| FreddiesGhettoTrench 01.02.2005 19:03 |
Wow... people at my school never discuss breasts... I think I've been missing out. ... The fact that the damn things itch is a good enough reason as far as I am concerned, even though I wear 'em anyway *scratches*. |
| dragonzflame 02.02.2005 16:20 |
Simoriah wrote: Not a fan of underwired bras as the wire escaped from one of mine and made a hole in my washing machine drum. Cheap underwear, expensive damage.Yeah - I handwash mine, it makes them last longer. A few weeks ago I put one in the washing machine to see what would happen and one of the underwires vanished. Your post has got me really scared now! |
| jasen101 02.02.2005 18:30 |
I think all fat men should wear bras |
| SergeantPepperDG 02.02.2005 18:37 |
jasen101 wrote: I think all fat men should wear brasWell, maybe just sports bras. The fancier ones are usually meant to... enhance. I don't think obese men would want that. |
| MetzgerR 02.02.2005 19:58 |
Whoever it was that originally came up with the idea of underwires was a very sadistic prat... right up there with the guy who thought up nylons. Just thought everyone would like to know that... Ja ne! |