| My Best Friend 08.01.2005 19:32 |
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| deleted user 08.01.2005 20:02 |
What. AGHHH. Will you stop sending meaningless topics. It's so annoying!!! Note: I'm not shouting. |
| My Best Friend 08.01.2005 20:04 |
If you didn't, then the question is not for you. |
| deleted user 08.01.2005 20:05 |
I am staying a virgin until I get married. I certainly don't expect to do anything to Queen's music aside from washing dishes. |
| John S Stuart 08.01.2005 20:07 |
Isn't it sad that this once great site is slowly slipping down the crapper? |
| My Best Friend 08.01.2005 20:10 |
hey this topic might be a queen documentary one day |
| deleted user 08.01.2005 20:18 |
I'm so sorry if what i said offended or annoyed any of you. If so i'll delete it. |
| dragonzflame 08.01.2005 20:39 |
No. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. |
| deleted user 08.01.2005 22:16 |
I don't think I am missing anything, thanks, especially since all I am doing is waiting. |
| Awesome-O _4000 09.01.2005 01:43 |
Don't we realise that posting to this shit just encourages them? (which is totally ironic because I'm posting on this shitty post to tell you all to stop posting to shitty posts like THIS shitty post) |
| LadyMoonshineDown 09.01.2005 01:47 |
Haha. Awesome, you're great. Yes, we are encouraging it.... But how can anyone honestly hide from hypocrisy? We can't, so we just go along with the flow, cos we're cool like that. Chicken anyone? *passes plate around* Cheers |
| Awesome-O _4000 09.01.2005 02:34 |
haha! Yes... tell me more about how great I am and pass me the left leg. |
| Awesome-O _4000 09.01.2005 02:35 |
Awesome-O _4000 wrote: (which is totally ironic because I'm posting on this shitty post to tell you all to stop posting to shitty posts like THIS shitty post)And then say THAT ten times fast. |
| foxxy_moron 09.01.2005 02:44 |
i dont see why people would conffess if they did lose it to a queen song. its kind of a private matter. im a sweet 14 yr old this is damaging my mind even more than it already is :) |
| Awesome-O _4000 09.01.2005 03:05 |
sorry we corrupted you. Particularly me revealing the truth of "you and I" *laughs maniacally* |
| foxxy_moron 09.01.2005 03:26 |
Awesome-O _4000 wrote: sorry we corrupted you. Particularly me revealing the truth of "you and I" *laughs maniacally*ahhhhhh lol. oh well i suppose i cant get any more mental than i am lol. although i suppose you guys are the only one who understands my obsession with johnnie lol a 14 yr old loves a 53 yr old man odd lol |
| dragonzflame 09.01.2005 17:00 |
<font color=purple>Miss James wrote: I don't think I am missing anything, thanks, especially since all I am doing is waiting.Good for you :-) |
| Queen& 09.01.2005 17:02 |
no that would put me off |
| bigc 09.01.2005 17:03 |
miss james you are missing the best feeling life can give you. sex in a great relationship:) |
| Mayboy 09.01.2005 17:05 |
Im going to wait too, no sense in rushing anything especially something as important as this..although im aware its not that important to some ppl When the time comes definately not to Queen but a nice slow back beat ;-) |
| geeksandgeeks 09.01.2005 17:17 |
Lord a'mighty! Don't you think that's a bit personal? |
| KingMercury 09.01.2005 17:26 |
This guy is just an idiot He has a bird size brain |
| inu-liger 09.01.2005 17:32 |
I made out with a (*teenage) girl while my Live At Wembley DVD played on my computer. Does that count? I hope that answers yer question :P *I said teenage girl because some of yas would take the word 'girl' on its own in a twisted way |
| Scirocco1977 09.01.2005 17:44 |
Queen music is unshaggable cos you always wonder about BoRhap being about AIDS... man, that kills the atmosphere. |
| inu-liger 09.01.2005 17:50 |
Scirocco1977 wrote: Queen music is unshaggable cos you always wonder about BoRhap being about AIDS... man, that kills the atmosphere.Buddy, I don't even consider BohRap to mean anything about AIDS. AIDS wasn't even heard about back when this song came out! |
| Scirocco1977 09.01.2005 18:17 |
That's probably why I was just kidding. |
| Spiderleg Synthia 09.01.2005 18:55 |
I have heard of people (women) having their first orgasm to Queen... I suspect that if I had been thinking about a choice of soundtrack, I probably wouldn't have done it! |
| Yogurt 09.01.2005 18:59 |
<font color=purple>Miss James wrote: I am staying a virgin until I get married.Me too. |
| Koolkikiland 09.01.2005 20:27 |
Yogurt wrote:Cool. Your husbands will never stop thanking you.<font color=purple>Miss James wrote: I am staying a virgin until I get married.Me too. |
| Awesome-O _4000 09.01.2005 21:47 |
*jumping on the abstinence bandwagon* I am too. |
| deleted user 09.01.2005 21:49 |
*sigh* I wish all women were as patient as Miss James and Yogurt. Not that there's a mad rush to have sex... |
| Introducing_Christina Lauren 10.01.2005 16:25 |
i'm a happy little virgin too! (known as the nun to all my friends) but after a while all my boyfriends get fusrated and break up with me, o well! gotta stick to my morals! (BTW:what idiot came up with this topic?!) :) Christina |
| deleted user 10.01.2005 16:34 |
Nice to see so many virg's here. Don't let them bog you down, Christina, cos they are obvious not worthy of you if they break up over something like that. Btw, bigc, as I stated earlier, I know and feel I am not missing anything. You can have great sex in a marriage w/o having given your virginity away beforehand. |
| Czech_man 10.01.2005 16:46 |
Hi guys, I ve been fan since my 13. May be it is very strange but I always have a sex after dancing on the queen song. Many girls lost their virginity when I was trying to make kind of "proper atmosphere"....yeah, there´s logic behind that...whenever they liste to the queen in radio, they always think about me:) huuh, that´s my tactic. However, since I became christian, I make love only with my one girlfriend. and i do not want to listen to the queen song, it drives me so jealous about Freddie. |
| bigc 10.01.2005 17:12 |
i want to have sex with someone to body language...it would be an ultra quick way to get dumped |
| bigc 10.01.2005 17:15 |
<font color=purple>Miss James wrote: Nice to see so many virg's here. Don't let them bog you down, Christina, cos they are obvious not worthy of you if they break up over something like that. Btw, bigc, as I stated earlier, I know and feel I am not missing anything. You can have great sex in a marriage w/o having given your virginity away beforehand.dont wait till what a religion/god tells you is right. wait till it feels right for you and your partner, or simply someone you wanna f**k senseless. I admire people waiting, I simply think whatever makes someone happy is best. sex gets built up, demonised or downplayed. it should be cherised yet respected if I make sense:) |
| deleted user 10.01.2005 17:30 |
Sorry, that doesn't make sense to me, but I suppose we will have to agree to disagree on this issue. Staying a virgin until I get married DOES make me happy and there are several reasons why I have chosen to do it (yep, religion is one of them, which is my perogative). |
| OrAnGe SoDa 10.01.2005 17:57 |
<font color=orange>joe satriani</bold> wrote: What. AGHHH. Will you stop sending meaningless topics. It's so annoying!!! Note: I'm not shouting.i agree with u... |
| OrAnGe SoDa 10.01.2005 17:58 |
<font color=purple>Miss James wrote: I am staying a virgin until I get married. I certainly don't expect to do anything to Queen's music aside from washing dishes.me too...but then again...u never know...hehe |
| bigc 10.01.2005 17:58 |
<font color=purple>Miss James wrote: Sorry, that doesn't make sense to me, but I suppose we will have to agree to disagree on this issue. Staying a virgin until I get married DOES make me happy and there are several reasons why I have chosen to do it (yep, religion is one of them, which is my perogative).exactly.it makes you happy.thats whats important and it is what you believe in.I have no problem with that. i admire you. I just mean, dont think any less of people that do have sex out of marriage because I dont think any less of you |
| geeksandgeeks 10.01.2005 18:33 |
Yogurt wrote:Can't really predict it - I have no idea when I plan to get married.<font color=purple>Miss James wrote: I am staying a virgin until I get married.Me too. |
| deleted user 10.01.2005 19:06 |
Well, look. This topic, which was thought to be meaningless trash *ahem*, has now almost been transformed into conversation about religion, tolerance, and morals. Aw...See how everything works out? Isn't that nice? Maybe Queenzone has hope! haha... |
| Las Palabras De Amor 10.01.2005 20:31 |
ROFTLMAOKOPMPSHICB. |
| Awesome-O _4000 10.01.2005 22:14 |
Awww... isn't this nice... (said in a loud and incospicuous voice) SEE! We should be able to get the post numbers back on... |
| KillerQueen840 11.01.2005 07:17 |
Owwwwwe! My virgin eyes....they BURN! *covers eyes* :-p |
| The Mir@cle 11.01.2005 08:21 |
KillerQueen840 wrote: Owwwwwe! My virgin eyes....they BURN! *covers eyes* :-pYou little devil |
| deleted user 11.01.2005 08:51 |
"Ok, it's almost the same as waiting until the marriage, but if I'd like my future wife to have sex only with me in her entire life, I think I should do the same for her." - Having sex before your marriage, during the preparations of the marriage, isn't the same thing as waiting until after the marriage. |
| Mr.Jingles 11.01.2005 09:56 |
Girls might say that they want to stay virgins until they get married, but many of them won't and might change their mind in the long run. I have a lot of respect for those who still believe on taking that position (no pun intended), and stick to their beliefs and remain virgins until marriage. At the same time, I have a lot of respect for two people who truly love each other and are involved in a serious commitment, and decide that they just can't wait until marriage to be intimate. Religious people might tell you that people should wait for sex until marriage and getting it on before marriage is nothing but a sin, but the truth is that is better to have sex with someone who you really love without being married, than to have sex with someone you're married to, but you don't actually love that person as much as before. Btw... why should only girls be the only ones who should stay virgins? I mean, in this society for a girl to be a virgin, is a sign of respect and self esteem, while many guys consider themselves to be insulted when they're still virgins at 18 or 21. |
| queen_forever_87 11.01.2005 10:17 |
At first I didn't intend to respond to this topic, but it's getting a good conversation, so I'll give it a go. I'm religious too, but I'm not planning to stay a virgin untill I get married. If I have found a person that I truly love, and want to be with for the rest of my life, then I'll probably have sex with this person. I think that you can be religious without having to be virgin when you get married. Of course, I do think that the person you are gonna lose you virginity to has to be really really special. And that it's the person who I will probably marry to, it's not gonna be just the first nice guy I meet. One thing I know for sure is that I'm not gonna do it on a Queen song... 'cause what happens if your relationship doesn't work out right? (although I do not intend to let that happen) If I break up with a person I need some support, from friends, parents etc. But these persons can't be with you all day, and you can't keep crying all day... So I put on some Queen, and shout it out... that really helps. If I have a memory to a song that will not help at all, it'll only make me feel worse. That's why I don't want to do anything on a Queen song... I need Queen to support me, not to make me feel worse. Well... that's about it... just needed to say that. |
| Journeyfan05 11.01.2005 16:05 |
ok first of all, this is not a meaningless topic. I'd much rather talk about something fun like this than how everyone hates Paul Rodgers or how Newbies are the antichrist. Those seem to litter the message board these days. anyhoo I did in fact lose my virginity to a Queen song but very accidentally. This was in high school last year, I was 17. My girlfriend and I talked about it and decided that it was the next place we wanted to go So me being the romantic schmuck that I am, I burned a CD of a bunch of romantic songs on it. A bunch of 80's power love ballads, wonderful tonight by clapton, secret garden by springsteen, and all that other cheesey love stuff. Well I also thought I put "you take my break away" by Queen on there, cause that song is sooooo lovely. So we're in my basement with all the candles and insence and the music is going. We're just kissing on the couch and its getting pretty hot and heavy and romantic and right as I'm looking into her eyes to give her some cheesey line, BOOM! what do i hear blasting? "AAAAAAAAAAAAARE YOU GONNA TAKE ME HOME TONIGHT..." We both jumped and I got a bloody lip from her forehead hitting me I accidentally put the wrong Queen song on the CD. It was horrible. I totally ruined the mood and she got mad thinking I was making a Fat reference. but every story has a happy ending and after a bit of laughing and explaining, the night went back to normal and things went great thanks queen ::corny thumbs up to the camera:: |
| deleted user 11.01.2005 16:26 |
"Girls might say that they want to stay virgins until they get married, but many of them won't and might change their mind in the long run." - I suppose this could possibly be directed at me, considering I am someone who is staying a virgin until marriage and I wonder the relevance of this statement. I have never thought differently about this issue and it is something I take very seriously. Even now, as I have a boyfriend whom I have been in a relationship with for 8 months, I still maintain that I am holding onto it. For some people, this is simply something that is never considered debateable. I know lots of people who have remained virgins until marriage and people who are not married now, but are keeping it (my sisters, 27 and 23, are both virgins and they have never once considered giving it up). Sex, to me, is something that is sacred and something that I do not want to experience with anyone aside from my husband (this is the general view among Christians - male and female). To be honest, I don't appreciate having someone say "Well, you may say you're going to stay a virgin, but you could change your mind before then." That just seems like a pretty arrogant statement to me. And btw, I know plenty of men who are virgins and who are not ashamed, but proud of that fact. |
| dragonzflame 11.01.2005 17:03 |
Miss James wrote: "Ok, it's almost the same as waiting until the marriage, but if I'd like my future wife to have sex only with me in her entire life, I think I should do the same for her." - Having sex before your marriage, during the preparations of the marriage, isn't the same thing as waiting until after the marriage.If you've waited all that time then you may as well wait a few weeks longer till you're actually married. For me I'd been with my boyfriend for over a year and it seemed the right thing for us to do. I'm still with him two years later so I don't think there's anything bad about that. I'm fairly religious - although not Christian - but I felt it was my choice to make...and I knew I wouldn't stick to virginity till marriage even if I did decide that somewhere along the line. I'm all for people making that choice to stay virgins till marriage as long as they make that choice for themselves and not for their God or their pastor - because if they slip up then it's destroying. You sound like you made that choice for yourself, so more power to you! You'll feel awesome that you made such a huge decision and actually stuck to it no matter how hard it got. |
| Hank H. 11.01.2005 17:10 |
Is staying a virgin until marriage because among Christians, sex is considered something evil that deviates from god and praying and believing? Or is sex considered something that is so great that you are supposed to do without it, like in Lent? Or did it originate in completely different circumstances, when "women" had to marry at the age of 15? Or why was this "law" invented, and by whom? What is there to gain by refusing something that nature/God gave us for a good reason, that is a big part of a relationship (evolution-wise probably the most important reason for partnership)? How can it depend upon a formal act of marrying? Isn't sex with a long-time partner "holy enough"? Miss James, I see you're not keen on discussing your personal decision and that's fine, my questions are of more general interest in such religious attitudes. |
| newcastle 86! 16483 11.01.2005 18:53 |
i was really good i was 13 when i lost it in a field! lol |
| Koolkikiland 11.01.2005 21:57 |
Hank H. wrote: Is staying a virgin until marriage because among Christians, sex is considered something evil that deviates from god and praying and believing? Or is sex considered something that is so great that you are supposed to do without it, like in Lent?Great questions. Queenzone is probably not the place to answer them. . . but with all the other stupid topics posted day-in and day-out, I figure this won't hurt. . . Christians view sex (between married persons) as something incredibly sacred - That is because Christians believe God gives ordained priests and Protestant ministers the authority in God's name to make it a sacred union through the marraige ceremony. So, sex anytime before a valid marraige ceremony is a violation of God's law and consequently a sin. So, the only thing that makes sex holy is not how long you've been with a person but what God ordains as holy. What is there to gain by refusing sex before marraige? The reason Christians understand God's "law" to only allow for sex between married persons is not because God wants to be a mean and nasty God that likes to laugh at all His sexually frustrated creatures. It's because He wants to protect us - in other words because He doesn't want to see anyone hurt from all the trouble and hurts for couples and families that arises out of infidelity and promiscuity. Plain and simple: He loves us. There are also other added benefits to abstinence like not having your spouse compare you to 15, 20 other people he/she has had sex with over the years and vice versa. Not opening yourself up to the myriad of sexually transmitted diseases that people get. Not bringing children into the world to parents who weren't expecting them or were in any way prepared to rear them. Also, not to mention the great respect your spouse will have for you knowing you saved yourself exclusively for him/her that will last all through your marraige. That's the tip of the iceberg. But. . this is not the place. |
| Maz 12.01.2005 02:18 |
Hank H. wrote: Isn't sex with a long-time partner "holy enough"?From a pragmatic stand point, no. Koolkikiland does a good job of discussing the spiritual aspects of virginity, so I'll not repeat. But think of sex within society's structure and consider religion as a form of social control. Judeo-Christian values, which is the foundation of much of the Western world, recognizes adultry (broadly defined as sex outside of marriage) as dangerous for society's stability. It can lead to disease and death, an unwanted and uncared for population, and prove divisive for community's by increasing jealousy or envy (one of the seven deadly sins). For these society's to remain intact, it must control how or when sex occurs. Obviously, not all societies or cultures are based on Judeo-Christian principles, nor is the threat of disease and unwanted populations as prevelent thanks to modern science. But there are certain emotional issues that sex creates, especially in this modern age, and I think contemporary religious attitues concerning virginity address those. Mr.Jingles79 wrote: Btw... why should only girls be the only ones who should stay virgins? I mean, in this society for a girl to be a virgin, is a sign of respect and self esteem, while many guys consider themselves to be insulted when they're still virgins at 18 or 21.Why is a woman more likely to be called a "whore" or a "slut" than a man? |
| riku_queencdr 12.01.2005 03:11 |
Interesting, although not really Queen related discussion going on here.. Ok, I'll throw my "spoon in the soup" too: Isn't sex considered as one of the most important things in marriage? Shouldn't it be something that both parties enjoy and cherish? If you never have sex before you get married, how you can be sure that you will enjoy it with your spouse after marriage? If sex in a marriage is unenjoyable, doesn't that make your whole marriage dull? When people are committed to wait until marriage, they quite often get married very young, only to soon find out that their partner is totally wrong for them sexweise. As sex is a very important part of marriage, most of these couples end up divorcing as their sex life "dries up" after a while. I'm sure that us who have had our bad experiences before marriage thought after that "Jeez, we are a total unmatch when it comes to sex. Luckily we found that out before we ever got married.." I'm not saying what is right, to have sex before getting married or to wait, but I would like to know what people who are committed to wait, think about this. How they can be sure the sex with their spouse will be good and if it's not, what happens then? Is divorce an option or they just quit having sex? |
| The Mir@cle 12.01.2005 03:26 |
I respect those who don't want to have sex before marriage. Personally I don’t think there’s a God or any kind of justice under the sky. So loving each other is my only condition to have sex with someone. |
| Melancholy Blues 12.01.2005 07:21 |
i think that if you want to wait then you should and if you don't then you should do what you want. i think everyone should except each persons opinion a right to do whatever they want and not judge them for having different morals or ideas to your own. personally, i'm not religious, but i do respect people who do decide to wait. i think that it is more special if you wait until you find the right person or get married, but i can understand people not wanting to do that. |
| willem-jan 8923 12.01.2005 07:55 |
So, living together, sleeping in the same bed, watch each other naked under the shower, kissing, the good old oral fun and all that are alowed before marriage? If so, then I don't see the point of avoiding the next step. I even heard stories of girls doing it only from the back, just not to loose their virginity. Completely retarded, but hey, they still can mary in a white dress.... Anyways, my point is: what can you do, before marriage and what is seen as a "sin". Apart from that, living in sin kicks ass! |
| Koolkikiland 12.01.2005 08:46 |
riku_queencdr wrote: When people are committed to wait until marriage, they quite often get married very young, only to soon find out that their partner is totally wrong for them sexweise.Well, I'm no theologian. . I'm just a practicing Catholic Christian. . . but as to the issue of whether sex will be good or not after marraige. . . I guess from my perspective, finding that "right" person to marry and sex is NOT like test driving a car before you buy it. To a Christian, God has a single SPECIFIC life plan for every person, which also includes the person planned for them to marry. That person will be the perfect person for you in all ways. . . emotionally, spiritually, sexually, personality-wise, etc. . The crucial key is praying that God will lead you to that perfect person for you and that person will be lead to you as well. So, really there's no need to go around test driving all these girls or guys to see if you're "compatible" sexually. Once you find your soul mate, trust me, you'll be compatible all right. ;-) Plus, if you are going around test driving different people, then you're not doing any great favors for the people who are SUPPOSED to marry them someday. Wouldn't it suck to one day find your soul mate and then find out she/he went around being test driven by many guys/gals before she finally found you? I mean, c'mon, what could be so incompatible between two people sexually? Most people's plumbing works just fine. Unless one of the partners has a deformed sex organ or something crazy like that. Usually people's sex life "dries up" after marraige due to things like not being sensitive to eachother's needs or if the partner starts secretly comparing the other to previous sexual partners or some other kind of sin baggage gets factored in as a result of promiscuity or being conditioned in a an unhealthy way by pornography or stuff like that. Also, one of the partners not taking care of themselves physically can really put a damper on the sex life too. Naw, I don't buy the we-have-to-find-out-if-we-match-sexually argument. Sounds like an excuse to do what you want instead of what's best for everyone. You also have to keep in mind that sex has two main purposes for the Christian: one, for the bonding union of the couple - it's a way of saying to the other "I give my total self to you, exclusively, from now until we die" and, two, for the procreation of children. Sex is not purely a recreational activity. It also has great responsibilities that come with it for the Christian that can only be handled well under the umbrella of marraige. |
| Koolkikiland 12.01.2005 08:55 |
willem-jan wrote: So, living together, sleeping in the same bed, watch each other naked under the shower, kissing, the good old oral fun and all that are alowed before marriage? |
| Koolkikiland 12.01.2005 08:57 |
Ooops. Umm, no, what you mentioned is not allowed before marraige. . 'cept kissing, which is not a grave sin. |
| riku_queencdr 12.01.2005 09:13 |
I'm not suggesting this "test-drive" method to anyone (this term was used by Koolkikiland, not me) but what happens when you get married and after that notice you enjoy oral sex the most and your wife can't stand it? Will you live your whole life without the thing you enjoy the most in sex or you seek "help" somewhere else? If we go to the sin part, didn't Jesus die for the sins of people so we can do sin, as long as we ask for forgiveness and remorse? |
| Koolkikiland 12.01.2005 10:16 |
riku_queencdr wrote: If we go to the sin part, didn't Jesus die for the sins of people so we can do sin, as long as we ask for forgiveness and remorse?Well, no, Jesus didn't die for our sins so we could keep on sinning without consequence. You'll see in scripture after Jesus forgives a person's sins, he always tells the person ". . go and sin no more." But this is where Protestants and Catholics part ways theologically. My understanding is that the Protestant believes "once forgiven and saved, salvation is gauranteed no matter what". But Catholics understand that a person's deliberate sin can cut them off from God again and put their salvation in serious peril. However, if the person is truly sorry for their sin and they resolve to sin no more, they can receive complete forgivess through the sacrament of confession. Ok, I'm done. |
| Mr.Jingles 12.01.2005 11:12 |
<font color=purple>Miss James wrote: "Girls might say that they want to stay virgins until they get married, but many of them won't and might change their mind in the long run." - I suppose this could possibly be directed at me, considering I am someone who is staying a virgin until marriage and I wonder the relevance of this statement.Geez, do you have to take everything I say so goddamn personal? I just happened to have many female friends who said that they were going to remain virgins until marriage, and a handful of them ended up changing their minds later on. Sadly for some of them it was a sad regret for having their "first time" with a guy who they didn't really know well, and those guys ended up breaking their hearts. I guess that it takes some time to know a person really well to finally decide if you really want to spend that very special moment with them. If you decide to stick to your principles, then that's fine and it's something that should be respected. Same thing goes if you decide to change your mind, and decide to be closer to that one person that you really love. As long as you know that what you're doing is for true love and self respect, there's nothing wrong with that. And next time I say something... Count to 10 and cool it down. |
| Maz 12.01.2005 11:48 |
Koolkikiland wrote: My understanding is that the Protestant believes "once forgiven and saved, salvation is gauranteed no matter what".Not all Protestants follow a "once saved, always saved" doctrine. Calvinist theology, which includes Baptists and Presbyterians to some extent, believe this way. But other Protestants, like Methodists, believe that individuals can backslide, or fall from grace, very easily. Mr.Jingles79 wrote: Geez, do you have to take everything I say so goddamn personal? . . . And next time I say something... Count to 10 and cool it down.Looks as if you answered your own question there, Danny. Far as I can tell, Miss James kept the debate cordial and did not resort to profanity or condescension. |
| deleted user 12.01.2005 16:59 |
Good posts, Koolkikiland. I find it quite odd how people assume that virgins are completely incapable of knowing how to have or being good at sex. Just because we wait does not mean we do not have the same urges or feelings as others do. |
| riku_queencdr 12.01.2005 17:21 |
I don't know who suggested that virgins wouldn't be good in sex. At least I never said that. Only thing I questioned is that how do you know the sex will be good with your spouse? As the needs are there for all of us, will they eventually be the same for both parties (for example, one likes SM, the other more "traditional" things). I didn't drag this religion issue here, there might be other reasons for people wanting to wait. I only want to know your opinion what happens if you are not happy with your sexlife after you get married. This could be an endless topic if we want :))) |
| Janet 12.01.2005 17:25 |
There are alot of people who are not virgins when they marry who are not happy with their sex lives afterward. I doubt whether you've had sex prior to marriage matters alot in that department. Many factors effect sex during the course of a marriage, stress, jobs, pregnancy, children, illness, etc. When people truly love each other, they find ways to make things work. Compromise is always the key. |
| Mr.Jingles 12.01.2005 17:32 |
Zeni the Wet Sprocket wrote: Why is a woman more likely to be called a "whore" or a "slut" than a man?Somehow the term "slut" or "whore" is a lot less offensive than "pimp" or "playa". These last 2 are actually considered as compliments by many men... not all of them, of course. Even girls who consciously know that they're whores or sluts, feel offended to be called in those terms. Yet again there are a very few girls who seem to be proud to be whores and sluts... like Paris Hilton for instance. |
| wstüssyb 12.01.2005 17:37 |
Riku brougt up a good point. thank god I didnt wait till I got married, if I married the first chick I railed my sex life would be boring and I would be totally unhappy =) for the waiting till im married some ppl do that, nothing wrong with it. I still remember at leat 4 girls who I had sex with say that when we first started to date lol, shame on me. |
| deleted user 12.01.2005 17:46 |
Riku, you may want to take into account the fact that if you're a virgin, you have not experienced sex, thus you do not especially know what is "good" or "bad" or what you will like or dislike. Simply because you get married w/o experiencing it does not mean you are doomed to a horrible sexlife, b/c part of it is experiencing it for the first time with your spouse and enjoying it for the first time...then the two can go from there. |
| queen-mad 4729 12.01.2005 17:49 |
I lost my virginity with Electric Fire playing in the background, i'm sure that would make roger laugh LOL |
| deleted user 12.01.2005 18:05 |
Btw, I would like to say thanks to a lot of you for being open-minded and generally polite about this issue. It is something I take very seriously and something that I highly value. One time I mentioned that I was remaining a virgin until marriage on QOL and a woman treated me like I wasn't human, THEN she started a topic about the issue, to which the majority of posters spoke as if we virgins aren't human and are, in fact, insane for thinking differently from the norm. Furthermore, they completely blasted me for my personal and religious views on the issue, to which I was very pleased to leave there and not return. :^) |
| MadeInMadhouse 13.01.2005 17:06 |
Oh My god, who wanna listen to Queen while "Get Down Make Love" so its so absurd, probably people dis it but for accident, but in purpose loose teh viginity listen to the Radio or Music, well the person who defends vigin untill get marriage.. I AM COMPLETELLY AGREE! well the people who dont think about that or loose it violently I respect their state or their point of view, keep the viginity in these days is a bit hard, there are many factors in our society, cultural or depraved people who rapes anothers one, includes little girls and boys, they are approaching their ingenuity to stole their innocense... so its very sad, that the moral is getting very low... |
| My Best Friend 13.01.2005 20:07 |
All you people, lets just act as if Freddie would of. Lets just slut ourselves out. Have you ever? There will always be a group of girls to do this. You virgins, just stay virgins. Big deal. If you're unhappy with your sexlife, you'll just do it through food or cigs or biting your nails or pulling your hair or drugs Thats why I love Fred, we both like to slut slut ourselves out. Fred said: "I'll fuck anything that moves". |
| deleted user 13.01.2005 20:24 |
I pity a person who uses Freddie as a role model. His "slutting himself out" didn't actually do him any good, you know. |
| Introducing_Christina Lauren 13.01.2005 20:58 |
queen_forever_87 wrote: At first I didn't intend to respond to this topic, but it's getting a good conversation, so I'll give it a go. I'm religious too, but I'm not planning to stay a virgin untill I get married. If I have found a person that I truly love, and want to be with for the rest of my life, then I'll probably have sex with this person. I think that you can be religious without having to be virgin when you get married. Of course, I do think that the person you are gonna lose you virginity to has to be really really special. And that it's the person who I will probably marry to, it's not gonna be just the first nice guy I meet. One thing I know for sure is that I'm not gonna do it on a Queen song... 'cause what happens if your relationship doesn't work out right? (although I do not intend to let that happen) If I break up with a person I need some support, from friends, parents etc. But these persons can't be with you all day, and you can't keep crying all day... So I put on some Queen, and shout it out... that really helps. If I have a memory to a song that will not help at all, it'll only make me feel worse. That's why I don't want to do anything on a Queen song... I need Queen to support me, not to make me feel worse. Well... that's about it... just needed to say that.I'm doing it for health and religous reasons. i also think sex is something to be cherished and beautiful, something sacred between a wife and husband (or wife and wife whatever). The way some of the kids in my school talk about it is as if it were something as casual as a hug. I find it repulsive. |
| My Best Friend 13.01.2005 22:14 |
Do I need defend myself against you Dirt Queen? With a name like that, we know what you're about. I'm way past my teenage years and can speak of many "Freddie-like" adventures. I've lived life to the fullest just like Freddie. I've had plenty of anonymous fun with anonymous people who are like-minded. Imagine all the hot sweaty dance clubs Freddie was in. Imagine all the drugs in those clubs. They'll make you sleep with anything. I KNOW! I know what Freddie was talking about. So all you virgins, STAY VIRGINS UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED and pray to God you find a happy sexual medium within your marriage and partner. Be open sexually to your partners. Leearn the sexual diaphram. The sex chakra. Open it up. Last longer. STAYING POWER baby. |
| dragonzflame 13.01.2005 22:47 |
And once again, a perfectly healthy and interesting discusion makes its descent into the fiery pits of trollland. |
| deleted user 13.01.2005 22:54 |
My thoughts too, dragonzflame. |
| Mr.Jingles 13.01.2005 23:33 |
I found this picture to be perfect to show life before and after marriage... link |
| Hankster 14.01.2005 10:07 |
'My Best Friend' is sexual frustrated .. that's a fact. WHAT DOES SOMEONES SEXLIFE INTEREST YOU? .. sick person .. |