I've been married for 10 years and I would consider my marriage to be a very happy one, sure we've had our ups and downs just like anyone else but on the whole we are very happy. Of and evening we sit together and tell each other about our day, each of us in turn listening intently to the others story. We share common interests together, such as music, books, films and such like. We socialise at a weekend perhaps a meal, theatre or the movies. All in all we lead quite an idylic life together. I am a lucky man.
But there is one small problem, why is it that once a month my beautiful, sweet and loving wife turns into the psycho bitch from hell. I've tried everything, like agreeing with everything she says (not recommended), not agreeing with everything she says (definitley not recommended), staying calm and saying nothing at all, that was such a bad idea. I've had books thrown at me, a pan of spaghetti bolognese and if the cat had been handy Im sure she would have gone the same way to. Her suitcase has been packed so many times the neighbours think she works for an airline company. If you shout back, you get accused of every murder in the district, and God forbid if you reach out your arm to put a reassuring hand on her shoulder, anyone walking past the house would think you were a wife beater.
So Im appealing to the ladies at Queenzone, what should a man do at this most sensitive of times, as I have only a few days left until my hell starts again.
I wish I could give you some advice. I can honestly say I've never thrown anything at my husband, or packed my bags during "that time". To tell the truth, I usually keep to myself till I'm feeling more like "me" again, because I KNOW I'm being a crabass! ;-)
Person 1: How many women with PMS does it take to screw in a light bulb?
Person 2: I don't know, how many?
Person 1: 6
Person 2: Why?
Person 1: It just DOES- OKAY???
deleted user 04.10.2004 20:52
You take 5-7 days of feeling like there is a pitchfork being jammed into your stomach and then we'll talk. ;^)
Ditto here. Living in a household with 1 lady (my mom) and teenage girl with raging hormones makes our house a warzone during these crucial times. I bet your case is much, much worse, based on your story. I sympathize.
-Do something romantic, buy her flowers or make her dinner or let her go shopping (shopping highly reccomended). It'll buy you 30 minutes at most, but hey - it's worth it.
-Sit her down with you, act sad and say "why are you so mad at me?" with large, teary puppy-eyes. It might work.
-Hugs and a calm, cheery voice - no matter what she just shouted at you. For instance, in mornings when she gets up and goes "grrrrr" right in your face, you at once put up a big smile and say "good morning! Slept well? Want me to make you breakfast?". If you had a tail, you'd wag it - that kind of approach.
-Don't watch football. Don't pay attention to the TV at all. Actually, don't pay attention to ANYTHING but her. And it's the nice kind of attention we're on about here.
-Say "poor, poor you" when she complains and then make her a hot cup of tea/chocolate and wrap her in a blanket. Rent a movie, too. As long as she pays attention to the movie (romantic comedy, mind you) you're safe. But watch it with her and look like you're interested - only time it's allowed to pay full attention to the TV.
-Buy her chocolate and ice cream. Lots of it! Don't ever, ever, ever say that she should perhaps limit the use of sweets.
- Also, don't you EVER say "what's up with you, it's THAT time of month again?". Just don't, especially not if it IS that time of month again.
Or simply make up an excuse as to why you just can't be home, and leave.
deleted user 05.10.2004 12:17
...damn... am i the only one who doesn't get THAT bad?
i just cry, freeze my ass off and sleep... ha