QueenZone discussion #350244
You do not know how to handle...
| Josuè 17.05.2004 13:02 |
Sometimes I wonder why I always fall in love with someone who wouldn't be determined to be with me. I'm 18 years old, and when I was 15 I discovered love for the first time. Since then, I've fallen in love with 4 girls, and any of them has belong to me. I haven't had any longterm serious relationship, though I know I'm too young. But being 18 years old, I can asure you that I don't see any expectative of having any relationship on the horizon. I'm hopeless. This is not a 'help me!' post, this is a 'does anybody have the same problem and, by the way, I'm free?' |
| Catgoddess 17.05.2004 14:01 |
You have oodles of time dude. Don't worry yourself. |
| MexQueenFM 17.05.2004 14:08 |
you always want what you can't have, it's human nature, and you have lots of time ahead of you, a player is not born, it can be done |
| Josuè 17.05.2004 14:14 |
speaking words of wisdom... thank you ;) |
| Penis - Vagina 17.05.2004 14:20 |
I never had a relationship until I was 23. And that was the only one. Haven't had another in the 10 years since. But I never really lost that relationship completely. I'm reminded of it a couple times an hour when I light up a cigarette, since that bastard got me started smoking. Stay away from love. It gives you lung cancer. |
| Josuè 17.05.2004 14:46 |
I just can't smoke, I cough everytime I smell the smoke ;) I dunno, I think of it too many times. |
| MexQueenFM 17.05.2004 15:41 |
so in order to succeed, no quieras mucho a una chava, no te le "avientes" habla con ella y no le des el poder, tu sigue como si no te importara, hasla reir y pronto te querra :) a nadie le digo lo que te acabo de decir, por eso lo puse en Español ;) so there you go Josue :) |
| Josuè 17.05.2004 15:52 |
thank you mex, esa es mi filosofia, dejo que las cosas surgan, y la trato como una buena amiga, es la mejor manera de estar feliz junto a ella, y aunque no de resultado, lo que importa es la amistad :) thank you for that, Josuè. |
| MexQueenFM 17.05.2004 16:02 |
pero tambien no la trates como amiga, mientras mas lejos mejor, pero cuando la veas, hazla que se acuerde de ti, porque si la tratas como amiga, te querra igual :) |
| MexQueenFM 17.05.2004 16:25 |
"Someone is bound to say YES eventually" Exactly, the more you ask, the more chance you have |
| Josuè 17.05.2004 16:42 |
lol, nice posts you there thank you for your advices! |
| Daburcor? 17.05.2004 22:30 |
Speaking from experiance, I think you'll do just fine Josuè! Keep your chin up! |
| Freddie-B 18.05.2004 04:24 |
You'll regret posting that by the time you're 21. Believe me mate, I felt the same way at 18 and now I'm about to turn 22 and it's a whole different ball game. Good luck! |
| Mr.Jingles 18.05.2004 08:23 |
A solution could be having more of a "bad boy" attitude. Sadly, these days girls no longer want the loving, caring, sensitive, romantic, and sweet kind of guys. At the same time by becoming a "bad boy" you won't be acting as yourself and that will eventually make things worse. So I wouldn't recommend you to try that. The fun part of that is seeing girls crying and whinning because they were cheated, humiliated, and completely heartbroken by their "bad boy" boyfriend. And then you tell them... Duh! He's a bad boy for God's sake. He will eventually end up treating you like that. |
| deleted user 18.05.2004 09:03 |
lol...oh..generalizations...gotta love 'em. |
| Daburcor? 18.05.2004 09:17 |
*snicker* |
| Josuè 18.05.2004 10:03 |
Yes, I know that there's a section of people who acts like this. As you guessed, I won't be myself acting as this... furthermore I wouldn't be able to act as this just cause it doesn't fits with me, lol! Anyway, I do not want a girl who prefer a 'bad boy', that's the first point that shows me if a girl is worth or not: when they are so superfitial. thanks for the post guys |
| ^wicked^ 18.05.2004 10:16 |
Not all girls want a "bad boy"... I'm proof of that. I have someone who respects me and loves me regardless of what I do. I started dating him shortly before I turned 20. Just keep looking... love turns up in very unexpected places. |
| iGSM 18.05.2004 10:53 |
Girls DON'T want a bad boy? Shit. *throws out all the Fonz gear* Looks like I'll have to start singing Headlong. |
| Mr.Jingles 18.05.2004 11:18 |
I'm not saying that all girls like 'bad boys', but it's sad that so many of them do. At least here in the States there are lots of chicks who hear a kid speaking with a ghetto accent and looking like a thug and they are down on their knees. |
| MexQueenFM 18.05.2004 12:35 |
"At least here in the States there are lots of chicks who hear a kid speaking with a ghetto accent and looking like a thug and they are down on their knees." Word all true, you woudln't believe what i see, i'm glad i learn this at an early age |
| deleted user 18.05.2004 19:37 |
I agree with Wicked. My boyfriend is respectful as well and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. |
| Freddie-B 19.05.2004 04:49 |
Girls like 'bad boys' because they're women and are therefore completely irrational, and largely stupid. Feminists, I know you won't like that comment, but it's grown up time now, and I'm a man-so let's get on with things, hear me out. There are two reasons for it. Firstly they have this ridiculous idea that they can "change" men. Now, this is true on some counts, but nothing can fundamentally change a man except himself. Women seem not to understand this. So, the idea of them "taming a bad boy" is futile. Bad Boys like shagging around and treating women like shit, if the woman tries too hard to tame them, she'll just get treated worse, and probably not dumped-since she'll automatically become sex on tap. The other reason is that it's a projection of self-esteem. You won't find a woman with any self-respect ligging around with a bad boy, because she knows that she deserves better. When girls become insecure, they get down on themselves, and start to believe that they don't deserve any better than one of these tossers, and that they should feel lucky to get anyone at all. This of course is a problem that men can't solve, despite their best efforts. When girls go for nice guys, it's when they're worth going out with. Trust me, if she's always saying "Oh, woe is me, I always seem to go out with dickheads" then she needs a good slap and telling to go out and find a bloke who isn't a dickhead, since there are plenty. It strikes me that wicked and Miss James probably didn't want to get treated like shit, and so went for someone who wouldn't do it. I can't tell you how happy it makes me when I hear about people doing that, because it means there is hope for love and romance yet in this crazy old world. They're not ready for proper relationships if they're knocking about with wankers, it is a truth universally acknowledged. Argue with me all you want if you don't agree with me, but if you think about it, you'll probably find I'm right. Unless women are really just brain-dead morons, there must be some reason why so many of them end up with these tossers, whilst perfectly good men who would take care of them, like Josuè, have to go to bed alone at night. Mr Jingles-"The fun part of that is seeing girls crying and whinning because they were cheated, humiliated, and completely heartbroken by their 'bad boy' boyfriend." Well said mate, well said. I'd just like to add that I'm in a very happy relationship at the moment (and not just with my right hand, for a change) so these comments are not borne of bitterness, in case any of you were wondering. FB. |
| Mr.Jingles 19.05.2004 09:10 |
Once again, neither me or Freddie B are generalizing that all or most women like 'bad boys'. I'm sure both Wicked and Miss James made great choices when they had to pick their dudes. The thing is that you girls don't know how frustrating and dissapointing is to see a nice looking girl who would much rather choose to go out with a guy who is going to treat her like shit than dating a guy who would treat her with the respect she deserves. I see this happening more often with young girls, and by the time they reach their mid or late 20s then they start to realize what guy they should have chosen in the first place. P.S. Great post Freddie B, good for you dude. |
| ^wicked^ 19.05.2004 09:47 |
Perhaps it's life experience. When I was younger I did date the "bad boy smoker rebel". Got treated like shit, dumped him, grew up and started on an adult relationship. Be patient... the girls who are worth it get over the bad boy infatuations if they had them at all, and will be looking for the nice guys to settle down with. I'm not going to argue any of your points, since who am I to tell you what to believe? I just hope you all find happiness. |
| runy 19.05.2004 11:48 |
Now you are talking all about "bad boys", but hey,I can state that you guys like "bad girls". What would you say about this? Simply, I'm 19 and have been in love many oh many times, but all these times were very unlucky for me. So I started to blame myself for being a good girl. I myself don't like "bad boys" and never did. I hate smoking, much drinking and grumbling basterds... Someone said here that "Sadly, these days girls no longer want the loving, caring, sensitive, romantic, and sweet kind of guys." What a nonsense! I've been dreaming of such a chap all of my life! And I've been searching for him so much...but never found...or I found, but relationship between us was impossible for some reasons... Answering the statement: "Girls like 'bad boys' because they're women and are therefore completely irrational, and largely stupid." So I said that I hate "bad boys"...what does it mean then? That I'm not a girl? Or that I'm not stupid? Or that I'm rational as a guy? And the love thingy....ehhh...I noticed that after all my "experience" in love I'm trying to fight this feeling whenever it wants to appear in my heart... |
| Mr.Jingles 19.05.2004 11:58 |
The difference between guys looking for "bad girls" and girls looking for "bad boys", is that girls who look for 'bad boys' expect a serious relationship of commitment (yeeeah rright!). Meanwhile the guys who look for "bad girls" don't give a shit about commitment, they just want to have fun, and they know that the girl is not taking the relationship seriously either. Both kinds of relatioships are bad in their own way. |
| Mr.Jingles 19.05.2004 12:07 |
Now, if we're speaking of people in general who expect serious relationships of commitment. Guys look more for the 'good girls', than girls for the 'good guys'. As Freddie B pointed out before, girls expect to tame a 'bad boy', and they expect him to be respectful and faithful. That's an absolutely naive an immature way of thinking. |
| MexQueenFM 19.05.2004 12:09 |
great post Freddie B! I agree 100% they want to have those guys tamed, it gives them a challenge |
| iGSM 19.05.2004 22:05 |
< I found that immensely amusing. Good show. Anway I think 'Riding in Cars with Boys' is a prime example of the situation at hand. |
| Freddie-B 21.05.2004 04:17 |
Thanks for the support fellas-I'm glad people seem to agree with me. |