| Missreclusive 07.06.2012 12:17 |
How many of you wouldn't date or marry or even consider a personal relationship with someone who didn't share your taste in music? Specifically, Queen. Did go out with a guy who disliked Queen, one day I was listening to Freddie and he turned it off. Tha nerve. I've decided it's a very important issue. Goofy topic but hey, humour me. Thanks. _____________________________________________________ "The meaning of your communication is the response you get" |
| brENsKi 07.06.2012 13:13 |
i'll humour you...definitely not important in any sphere at all what someone likes...musically or otherwise is of no great importance...only things that matter is an agreed philosphy of what's right/wrong and common decency (been married 23 years and my wife hates queen, and i don't particularly like her faves (t-rex) ....beyond that....identical tastes are nowhere near important in fact some key sayings worth considering: variety is the spice of life familiarity breeds contempt |
| Missreclusive 07.06.2012 13:40 |
Well, you sure made me feel stupid. LOL. Seriously though, you are correct but I do blast my music sorta loud at times and would hate it if the person I loved cringed. I prefer identical tastes in some things. Being the best of friends is ultimately important and I congratulate you for finding that. |
| brENsKi 07.06.2012 16:27 |
we ALL blast our music someone who loves/really likes you will accept that my wife tolerates my stuff being played at "20" and i (almost) accept marc bolan being played.... we do have some common ground though...mainly 60s stuff like the beatles |
| YourValentine 08.06.2012 03:16 |
I could not live with someone who plays Hip Hop and rap all the time because I simply cannot tolerate it. Apart from that I listen to all kinds of music and I would not make musical taste a criterion. Certainly I could not live with someone who turns off my music without asking - I do not tolerate rude people, either. I think that mutual respect is more important than anything else and most issues do not matter when you respect each other. |
| mooghead 08.06.2012 04:13 |
Not being able to have a relationship with someone who doesnt share your taste in music is incredibly shallow. IMHO |
| pittrek 08.06.2012 09:57 |
mooghead wrote: Not being able to have a relationship with someone who doesnt share your taste in music is incredibly shallow. IMHOActually I have known a punk who ended a long relationship after he found out that his girlfriend HATES The Ramones :-) |
| brENsKi 08.06.2012 10:46 |
mooghead wrote: Not being able to have a relationship with someone who doesnt share your taste in music is incredibly shallow. IMHOand even more narrow than shallow |
| Missreclusive 08.06.2012 12:56 |
In retrospect I should have written more of my thoughts. Of course differences in music doesn't make or break a relationship! Me? hardly narrow-minded nor shallow. But then you don't know my story...or me. Yes, the person I mentioned suddenly turned off my music and it annoyed me, I found it rude. Also, I'm sorry, maybe narrow to some but if I had to listen to rap blasting in my ears I'd have to walk away. I tolerate it a bit with my daughter, she likes some rap. I live in a converted school bus with two children and have for years. I am very creative, I work hard, I am not predjudiced against, age, race, financial standing, religion, politics, but yes, I have my opinions. Differences can be a good thing! Thank you for your responses, I DO wish my hips were more narrow, my mind is not. :-) |
| Missreclusive 08.06.2012 12:59 |
YourValentine wrote: I could not live with someone who plays Hip Hop and rap all the time because I simply cannot tolerate it. Apart from that I listen to all kinds of music and I would not make musical taste a criterion. Certainly I could not live with someone who turns off my music without asking - I do not tolerate rude people, either. I think that mutual respect is more important than anything else and most issues do not matter when you respect each other.Thanks, I agree, even though I do listen to a little hip-hop and some rap due to daughter. Rudely turning off someones music isn't good, then going off on a rant about Freddie being a fag. Of course there were other intolerable differences with he and I, that wasn't the only thing. |
| Missreclusive 08.06.2012 13:02 |
pittrek wrote:I dated an old punk musician. I liked some of his music. His stories were even better, about punk culture in England when it all first started.mooghead wrote: Not being able to have a relationship with someone who doesnt share your taste in music is incredibly shallow. IMHOActually I have known a punk who ended a long relationship after he found out that his girlfriend HATES The Ramones :-) |
| Hangman_96 08.06.2012 16:35 |
Missreclusive, I really do agree with you. It's a very important thing for having a good relationship. It may not be the case for each situation, but since people tend to find their other half with similar music tastes it's very actual actually. I've never dated anyone in reality (yes, I'm too young actually). But I kind of have a relationship on the Internet these days. My girlfriend is a Queen fan (which is very important for me), and she's a fan of old music as well. We have a lot in common. The only problem is that she lives far away from me and she's four years older than me. Having said that, I would never have a relationship with someone who doesn't like rock music. |
| GratefulFan 09.06.2012 10:38 |
This reminded me of another thread from ago. Thought the OP might like to see those thoughts. link |
| Missreclusive 09.06.2012 12:36 |
GratefulFan wrote: This reminded me of another thread from ago. Thought the OP might like to see those thoughts. link |
| Missreclusive 09.06.2012 12:38 |
And what I meant to say, and the post did not post...thank you for that! If I had found it I wouldn't have started this thread. Some of those contributors are hilarious. _____________________________________________ "I'm clutching a meat cleaver, I'm coming apart at the seams." Freddie Mercury |
| waunakonor 10.06.2012 16:52 |
Missreclusive wrote: Rudely turning off someones music isn't good, then going off on a rant about Freddie being a fag.He did that? Yeah, that's not very good. I'm not gay myself, but I would find it extremely difficult to go out with someone who doesn't accept gay marriage/rights; it's one of the few topics I actually feel strongly about. I'm just glad that, for youth today in America, there's an overwhelming amount of acceptance for homosexuality. Different taste in music is one thing, disliking Freddie because "he's a fag," is completely different. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to handle that. More on topic, music taste is a small factor, but won't make or break anything for me. Finding someone who I actually like AND appreciates Queen as much as I do would be wonderful, but not completely necessary. |
| catqueen 10.06.2012 16:55 |
i used to think similar music taste was important, but i really don't think so anymore... you can learn to appreciate other types of music (both of you) and if not, you can learn to use headphones! I want someone i can go to gigs with, but most people enjoy more then one type of music, so its easy enough to find good live music. So i don't think it matters at all, although it's nice to have good music on in the car or whatever. |
| GratefulFan 11.06.2012 06:59 |
Missreclusive wrote: And what I meant to say, and the post did not post...thank you for that! If I had found it I wouldn't have started this thread. Some of those contributors are hilarious.You're unlikely to have found it. I knew it was there and it took me 10 minutes! :) As long as they're not too tired, I actually like when subjects come around again. Whether it's a reintroduction or an old thread bumped it!s interesting to see how thoughts have evolved. There was an old Lady Gaga thread bumped recently where I noted that I had went on a long ramble in defense of her talent. It made me smile because I just wouldn't do that today. Not because I feel particularly differently but because I don't think she needs the defense. Did she then? Don't know. But something either with me or with her has changed enough in a year that I just wouldn't yak that much about it now. The thread I pointed out to you has a reply from me that recalled instantly a particular state of mind at that time. My response today would likely be subtly different. So I think it's neat to have these staggered records of thoughts on similar subjects. |
| GratefulFan 11.06.2012 07:00 |
Double post. I'll use the opportunity to note that while musical taste may not be a particularly good reason to select or reject a partner, there is almost certainly something about it that is reflective of personality that nonetheless may be a predictor of longer term happiness with a partner. Opposites may attract sometimes but differences in personality can really grind down a relationship as you deal with day to day stuff. I read an interesting study about just that in the past. It concluded that most people choose partners based on shared values and goals and more superficial common interests because the intricacies of personality simply take much longer to glean. The study indictated that the single biggest predictor of marital satisfaction was similarity in personality on the standard 'Big Five' personality inventory. Just one study, and I'm sure other studies and personal experience may contradict it, but I did find it interesting. |
| thomasquinn 32989 11.06.2012 09:04 |
It wouldn't cross my mind to make an issue of musical taste when it comes to relationships. On the other hand, musical taste might make an issue of itself - I wouldn't want to be the person living with me if she doesn't like my music, because I'm afraid she just wouldn't enjoy herself very much. If I were dating someone whose music I didn't like, I'd just try my best to ignore it and gently nudge her in the direction of music we both enjoy. |
| Missreclusive 11.06.2012 10:11 |
GratefulFan wrote: Double post. I'll use the opportunity to note that while musical taste may not be a particularly good reason to select or reject a partner, there is almost certainly something about it that is reflective of personality that nonetheless may be a predictor of longer term happiness with a partner. Opposites may attract sometimes but differences in personality can really grind down a relationship as you deal with day to day stuff. I read an interesting study about just that in the past. It concluded that most people choose partners based on shared values and goals and more superficial common interests because the intricacies of personality simply take much longer to glean. The study indictated that the single biggest predictor of marital satisfaction was similarity in personality on the standard 'Big Five' personality inventory. Just one study, and I'm sure other studies and personal experience may contradict it, but I did find it interesting.I did this entire reply and it disappeared! Trying again. Yes, I agree with that study from personal experience. Had a love and he and I were different in many ways yet, our personalities were very similar. We would go places together and people always smiled and took notice. We talked about it and it wasn't because we were overt with being a couple. We shared the same humor and music. Interesting note, he looked so much like FM, people at his work would say to him "Dude, you look like Freddie friggin Mercury, can you sing??". He was same height and build too. He would belt out LOML to me and we would both laugh, this guy couldnt sing but enjoyed singing and it was so charming. Welp, cant have it all can ya? So much for that. Music feeds and affects your emotions and soul. If you share both humor and music its glorious. Of course I would date someone who had different tastes as long as he was respectful of mine. The one deal breaker for me is continual arguing. I refuse to argue with someone, its a waste of time. See? would be nice to go see QE with a date who loved Queen. Instead, I'm taking kids along with. |
| Mercurie 06.07.2012 00:36 |
Okay I just HAD to reply to this thread bc I was thinking about this the other day, and also I'd like to say this is my first post back on this board since 2005, when I was known around here as MercurieQueen (remember me, anyone?) I have never and probably could never date someone who was not a Queen fan. In fact, my love of Queen is directly responsible for all but two of the relationships I've had in my adult life. This is not shallow, it's personal preference. I've never felt as connected to a person as I have with those who share my love of Queen because I know they have a similar set of ideals, tastes and probably similar life experiences as myself. I also could not share such a huge part of my life and and interest with someone who could not appreciate the same thing, or who was only interested in it just because I wanted them to be. It's like a "type". I've only ever dated musicians thru my entire dating life, as I am very musical myself. My 'type' is musicians who love Queen. My boyfriend of 5 1/2 years plays electric, acoustic & bass guitar, piano, keyboard, synth & makes digital music too, has long, wavy 1975-Deacy hair and is a huge Queen fan like me. We met because I went to the Queen + PR show at The Meadowlands in New Jersey October 2005, and he went to the show in Philly in early 2006, and we were on the same blogring sharing pictures... started talking first about Queen, then about us, and BAM... love. :D We just saw QE together in the beginning of June and it was pretty darn close to a spiritual experience for the two of us! haha I can say though that my shortest relationship was when I was 19. Among other disqualifications, after about a month of dating, we were talking about our favorite guitarists and after I said Brian May, he said that Mr. May was "shit" compared to the guitarist for Blind Guardian... it was over about 2 weeks later. |
| Missreclusive 06.07.2012 09:13 |
Well hey! As the one who started this thread, I thank you for posting to it. Especially after being gone for so long. I would dearly love to be with someone who has love for Queen. If he didn't, there would be a void and some lonliness, this seems to be silly to some people. Would have been fun to see QE as a couple. I loved it and would definitely do it again if given the chance. I would see Q+AL too but only to see Roger and Brian play. |