| StoneColdClassicQueen 05.04.2008 23:55 |
idk if anyone cares, but i just someone to talk to about my stupid teenage problem.. well I go to this program, and I met a great friend there. (well, not so great anymore..) he was my first friend from there and he was extremely nice to me. I grew such a huge crush on him. i remember seeing him for the first time and thinking "he is effin hot!!!" well i talked to him. i've known him since october of 06 now. that's nearly 2 years i've been crushin on him. fast forward to recently: i told him how i felt last october. he said he liked me too! i was so happy. then it all started goin downhill. he said he wasn't ready for a girlfriend yet. i was like, ok that's cool. well, i don't think i should have told him how i felt cuz i think it ruined our friendship. he acted as if he liked me for like 1 or 1 1/2 months and then he sorta stopped. it was like he just waited for me to go after him or something. it started pissin the hell outta me. it's like he took me for granted. he's been blowin me off this past year so far and hasn't treated me very well. he said i complain too much and stupid little things like that. then, he started makin up all these stupid excuses to not talk to me. i tried talking to him at an event we had last month. he left me after 5 minutes saying he had some ache or pain or something. then he just looked at me walkin around and left. i saw him today. he looked at me and i didn't look back cuz i was so angry. i just saw him from the corner of my eye. he looked like he was gonna go up to me or something. i'm wasn't gonna let him. now i feel bad. i feel like i wanna fix things, but i promised myself i don't wanna deal with him anymore or anyone else like him (i've been hurt by many guys like him these past years) and i don't want to worry about him anymore. but this little voice in my head says to fix things. i'm confused now! and i'm feeling sad now.. i just feel hopeless and confused.. i just need someone to talk to. i bet everyone is just gonna tell me to get over it and suck it up like my friends at school have been, but i need someone to actually listen to me right now.. so please people, don't give me any negative crap. what should i do? |
| john bodega 06.04.2008 01:29 |
All I can say is; look at it as logically as you can. If you think this shit is going to carry on and/or get worse, then DITCH THE FUCKER. Someone I would've crawled over broken glass for has been getting distant with me and there comes a time where you've got to stop ruining your own life because you think they're special. Maybe they are, I know mine was... but if they don't feel the same way and never will, then you're wasting your time and hurting yourself needlessly. *ahem* my advice might be irrelevant to your problem, don't mind me! |
| Sweetie 06.04.2008 07:42 |
^
Don't worry Zeb,
Mine isn't too helpful either =)
StoneColdClassicQueen wrote: fast forward to recently: i told him how i felt last october. he said he liked me too! i was so happy. then it all started goin downhill. he said he wasn't ready for a girlfriend yet. i was like, ok that's cool. well, i don't think i should have told him how i felt cuz i think it ruined our friendship.Just so you know, Men are bastards and Jerks. Don't listen to anything they say. Never trust or believe, or even like, anyone named Wade. |
| Mr.Jingles 06.04.2008 07:55 |
As hard is it might be, the only solution is to move on and look elsewhere. I used to hate it when girls used to give me mixed signals. It's nerve wrecking when someone is playing mind games. |
| john bodega 06.04.2008 08:10 |
<Font color=Puce>Deakys |©|<h6>Microwa? wrote: Men are bastards and Jerks. Don't listen to anything they say.Christ, you weren't wrong about your advice.... ! I'm a Goddamn prince!! I'd go to Hell and back for a woman that wasn't totally fucked in the head... I just tend to drive the good ones away because I'm unemployed and I look like a prolapsed arsehole. |
| Ms. Rebel 06.04.2008 08:55 |
I don't believe in men/women friendships. |
| Woodie 06.04.2008 09:07 |
Guess that's not what you want to hear and I do know how you feel, but the best thing you can do is to move on, cause he obviously isn't worth your time. You don't want to waste your time on someone who's playing games and expecting you to like them anyway. |
| john bodega 06.04.2008 09:12 |
<font color="9933FF"><b> Ms. Rebel wrote: I don't believe in men/women friendships.I think as a concept they work fine, but in practice it's fucked me up every time. |
| Woodie 06.04.2008 09:39 |
well a TRUE friendship means sharing everything so in a case of male/female friendship they end up sharing the bed D: but then again, i'm talking only best friends or closest friends. the other ones work just fine. or they should |
| john bodega 06.04.2008 10:06 |
Woodie wrote: well a TRUE friendship means sharing everything so in a case of male/female friendship they end up sharing the bed D:I've found the best way to keep a female friend for me is to simply be in another town, or country, or whatever. Shagging doesn't even come into it, and thus is never a complication. Nothing kills a boner like an expensive air-fare. ^ ^ ^ I'm being a cunt with that last sentence but more or less that's how it's worked for me, I've had female friends who've moved away and I get along with those heaps better than I do with the ones that live near me. |
| Sergei. 06.04.2008 10:28 |
*This* is why I feel quite blessed not to have any crushes or "significant others", if you will, to bog me down.... I suppose it's rare for someone my age. But 'tis true. I've never had a crush (Minus Nijinsky xD) and as far as I know, no one's liked me either. :P |
| AspiringPhilosophe 06.04.2008 10:31 |
Stone Cold, you need to move on. I know it's not what you want to hear, trust me I've been there a number of times myself. But this guy is playing mental games, and there is no need for anyone to put up with that. Now as far as the male/female friendship goes, I'm a big believer in that. I personally have more male friends than I do female friends. Granted I love my female friends, but I find so many aspects of them so irritating...they are so needy and over-dramatic (most of them anyway). That's why I like being friends with guys better...to a certain degree they are simpler. That being said, guys don't know how to handle emotions....at all. They are trained from birth not to handle them, to be uncomfortable whenever emotions are involved in anything. That's why they play all these mind games. They are trying to remove the emotion (and themselves) from the situation. Like it or not, this guy is obviously doing that here, and you don't need to put up with that. There is no need to keep bashing your head against the wall for someone who plays mind games. Trust me on this one...someone I was interested in started playing mind games with me this semester, though I was ready for it and didn't put up with it (we are barely on speaking terms now, even though we work for the same professor and the same class. We never had a blow up or fight, we just don't talk any more than absolutely neccessary anymore). For a while after you end this you'll feel stupid for being taken in by it, but trust me, you aren't stupid. When emotions are involved, all logical thought goes out the window. I'll stop now, otherwise I'll get back on my "All men are heartless assholes who can't feel any emotion at all towards a woman other than I want to fuck her" rant. Good luck |
| Deacon Fan 06.04.2008 10:35 |
Cheer up girl. All anyone really needs is some chocolate, a porn stash and a kitty-cat. |
| john bodega 06.04.2008 11:17 |
HistoryGirl wrote: That being said, guys don't know how to handle emotions....at all. They are trained from birth not to handle them, to be uncomfortable whenever emotions are involved in anything. That's why they play all these mind games.If you hadn't put 'guys' in that sentence, I would swear you were talking about the woman that I just wasted a year of my life trying to stay friends with while she tried out guy after guy in my face. |
| Poo, again 06.04.2008 11:20 |
Love sucks. Over-rated. |
| Ms. Rebel 06.04.2008 11:48 |
J7 wrote: Cheer up girl. All anyone really needs is some chocolate, a porn stash and a kitty-cat.LOL :) |
| john bodega 06.04.2008 12:16 |
I guess what I really mean is link Crap film but the songs hit the nail on the head. |
| AspiringPhilosophe 06.04.2008 15:23 |
Zebonka12 wrote:True True....this is never a black and white issue of sexes. There are plenty of women who don't know how to handle emotions either, and there are guys who do. But, for the most part, the majority of people who don't know how to handle them are of the male persuasion. And good link BTW...though I happen to like that film. :-PHistoryGirl wrote: That being said, guys don't know how to handle emotions....at all. They are trained from birth not to handle them, to be uncomfortable whenever emotions are involved in anything. That's why they play all these mind games.If you hadn't put 'guys' in that sentence, I would swear you were talking about the woman that I just wasted a year of my life trying to stay friends with while she tried out guy after guy in my face. |
| john bodega 06.04.2008 15:56 |
Hah, never said I didn't like it... I suppose just because I think a thing is crap isn't enough to make me dislike it. The movie happens to be a guilty pleasure in my case, *ahem* |
| Lady Nyx 06.04.2008 21:21 |
seriously tho i had the same problem 2 years ago. he left me for some chick he met on WoW....ultamite of pathetic if you ask me. he is now miserable, the only reason he stays with her is because he cares for HER daughter, an wants her to grow up right. noble, but rather stupid, since he really didnt need to sign up for that job. whatever. anyway, as sad as it was, and i lost a good friend, there will be ones that are much better. in fact, youll wonder why you havent met them sooner :) it seems impossible now, since you have been heart broken, but you will be replenished. |
| theCro 07.04.2008 22:50 |
i'm a man and i dont know how will you feel but... you need to move on with your life and you will find someone who will really love/like you and will be happy to spend some time with you. the time fill fix everything, just ignore him and move on with your life. i had similar situation with one girl and i literally suffered for one year and now i'm fine, with another girl ... even i thought the new girl will never be like the one i suffered for (stupid me!) now i realize how my feelings betrayed me . the time will fix everything. |
| Ms. Rebel 08.04.2008 15:12 |
What is love anyway? |
| QueenMercury46 10.04.2008 17:32 |
<font color="9933FF"><b> Ms. Rebel wrote: What is love anyway?What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more. |
| Sweetie 10.04.2008 17:45 |
I hate sad depressing thoughts on love... only because I get to have the lame fights with my bf on who loves who more =p (Yes, I'm not going to try and make you feel better =p) |